I fell for my husband seduction, so I shouldn't blame him right? TMI
Well since this is a sex sub, so I ought to ask this here. I have found myself in a very grey area.
I need to get this off my chest, as I can't seem to get pass this.
I need reassurance/validation on this please. I don't know if this is me fell for my husband seduction, or he was somewhat forceful.
Sorry for English is my third language. I'm from Shanghai.
Me and my husband we together 11 years, married 7 years.
Something happened a while back, and till this day I still wasn't sure. I know it consensual sex, but then part of me not sure if it because I was so hesitant due to my missed pill therefore I didn't give the first minute initial consent.
I need some reassurance/validate my feelings on this please.
Husband initiated sex, and I did specificly told him that it was not a good time due to my missed pill that month and I didn't want to get pregnant (in all fairness, I did not use the word No).
Well, he went on forcefully suck on my mouth, then to my neck, then he slide down one side of my shirt and forcefully suck on my shoulder repeatedly, repeatedly, he just won’t stop use his mouth. However I did not say the word No or stop.
what I did was called his name, then I called his name again, my heart was racing for him but deep down I was hesitant I might get pregnant due to my missed pill.
He still won’t stop sucking/kissing, then he went to my breast, then continue his mouth down to my stomach, then his mouth down to my vagina. Then yeah you know, I had consensual sex with him.
Sucking here he was just using his mouth, he never hurt me.
In fall fairness, I did enjoy, really enjoy the sex with him. (sex with him it always been out of this world, he gives me multiple vaginal orgasms after orgasms).
He always the dominant one in sex and I'm the submissive one, so him sucking all over my body it nothing new. At first I was scare of might get pregnant, so I tried to fight it off. But then he continued on and it feels really good so I had consensual sex with him.
I mean I even unbutton his dress shirt, so it can't be forceful (on his side) right? When he on top of me while kissing all over me, he started to unbutton his dress shirt, then I engage I even help him to unbutton it too.
This alone say it wasn't force right? I mean how can it be force if I help unbutton his dress shirt? I guess I wanted sex with him too.
Validate my feeling on this please, he is my husband, I’m just confuse with my feelings on this. And he did this for a whole month of my missed pill, not just a one time thing, so he clearly know what he was doing. I did ask my husband why he did what he did, and he said it because he loves me very much and he crazy about me.
So basically my husband seduce me, I fell for it. I should woman up and take responsibility instead of shift the blame to him right? But for some reason part of me feel that he purposely did what he did to turn me on, persuade? as he knows he really really good in bed and I couldn't find myself to reject him sex. Yep, I found myself in a very grey area, I need validation on this.
I'm not sure why having sex with your own husband is a moral dilemma, or why either of you should feel badly. *One* missed pill isn't likely to result in pregnancy, especially if you take it as soon as you realize, and stay on schedule with the rest. After all, for seven days during your cycle you're only taking placebos. Married people should find sex with their partners pleasurable. It's fair compensation for the minor irritants and stuff we find annoying about one another.
Even tho you feel like it was consensual and that he was very gentle, the simple fact that you felt kinda uneasy or unsure is not something you should ignore. I think you should have a conversation with him about it when it’s day time and when the mood isn’t romantic and when you feel the most confident. Maybe you haven’t make it clear for him, and yeah it’s your right to say no especially when you are afraid of getting pregnant.