I saw feedback on my boyfriend's Ebay Account from Sex Shops
My boyfriend has changed alot over the last few months - lots of new clothes, different shoes, very good mood all the time. We live apart but see each other on weekends, although in recent months he spends less time with me on those weekends.
He sells alot of collectibles etc on Ebay and after viewing something on there he was talking about I checked his feedback as a buyer ( being nosey I suppose!) I saw that in the last 6 months he had positive feedback from 2 sellers with online sex stores selling sex toys/ BDSM lingerie etc.in the last 6 months. We don't use sex toys and he's never bought me anything like this to wear. In fact we haven't had sex for a while due to my own lack of self esteem and confidence, and depression due to having alopecia for the last year. I had broken up with him a couple of years ago because I no longer felt happy in our relationship but he pretty much harassed and wore me down into getting back together with him so this something new to deal with.
Should I be right to suspect he is cheating on me? I haven't confronted him about it but sure he will come up with some excuse and deny it. I just don't have the energy for arguing and stress as my confidence is at a low already.
If you're pretty sure he's going to deny it, then it's a good bet it's happening. His new clothes etc etc are a good indication that something is going on. If you're not happy in a relationship, you usually take steps to either fix it or finish it.
The guy likes to control and manipulate and if he truly loved you, his actions would tell you and he'd be spending money on you rather than himself.
If your health won't let you deal with it and it'll do your head in arguing about it, then you need to look after yourself and use your good judgement you used a couple of years ago and walk away.
"I just don't have the energy for arguing and stress as my confidence is at a low already."
I'm not surprised with a (er) boyfriend like that. Ugh.
Not surprised you have alopecia, either.
Narcissist Alert! (him, obvs)
It's your Narcissists that neither fix it nor leave you (alone to find someone NICE).
PS: inflammatory/stress caused conditions (i.e. being with someone who constantly makes you feel like sh*t on his shoe, openly or secretly, and jittery because you never know where you stand thus feel UNSAFE) tends to reverse after you leave them and grieve them out properly.