Friend says I play the victim, I am a smartass, blocks me on facebook
So, I have/had this friend over the past 30 years. We have lived in the same town now for the first time since late last year. I am on long-term disability. He works a full-time job recruiting medical staff. Lately, he has been what I believe is very hostile towards me for no logical reason. He lashes out at me and I find it very abusive. He claims I am the abusive one. Here is what transpired today verbatim on social media prior to blocking me. I joined this forum to get an impartial opinion. Any feedback would be most appreciated!
He sends me an image showing his earnings thus far this year. 80K which includes bonuses and overtime. This is what follows.
HIM: That's where I'm currently at. I’m always jealous of your life sleep whenever n wake up whenever. No job to report to, and still get monthly crazy check. No job responsibility, not getting up for work. Just waiting on your monthly crazy chrvk. I’m going to Filipino buffet today. I can’t wait.
ME: You are not jealous of me. A good-paying career. And you took/take plenty of naps. About to live in a brand-new house in a brand-new community. No. Actually, I am not jealous of you. It's not good to compare yourself with others. Just be thankful for what you do have. I am just saying. I COULD be jealous of you for those reasons. But, I am not.
HIM: You’re right jealous is not the right word. Envious instead. I’m envious you don’t have to do anything. My life is complicated, new house means $3 a month in mortgage. Not counting bills. Which means I have to work until I’m 80 lol. U don’t have to work n still have your apartment n regular chrvk. If you’re hosting a bbq this weekend I’ll stop by lol.
ME: bq?... bbq on tuesday, how's that. on the pavement...114 degrees. (We live in Las Vegas, NV where it get’s well over 100 degrees in the summer).
HIM: I guess that’s a no. I’ll make my own bbq.
ME: No, it's a yes...but what to bbq? I love bbq. You want I should go out and by a rack of ribs?
HIM: No it’s all good, I’ll just buy bbq fr down the street.
ME: I want bbq too.
HIM: I had good intentions when I asked u. I was even going to bring everything. but like always u had to give a smart ass response. it’s all good. I will buy it fr down the street.
ME: How did I give you a smartass response?
HIM: Not going to debate about it. Proceeds to send me a snapshat and circles where I said “bq?... bbq on tuesday, how's that. on the pavement...114 degrees”.
ME: That was just silliness and you really believe that was a smartass remark? I mean, when you were back east you said maybe we can go for a salad when you get back. I said can I have some chicken on it. And you lol'd. You didn't think that was a smartass remark. Then you drop off the Jollibee (fast food chicken) and say you don't care if I like it or not. What kind of remark is that? You seem like you're grasping, trying to find anything you can spin with my words to get pissed at me for. The joke was how hot it will be and how like they say you can fry an egg on the pavement. Have you ever heard that before? So, I substituted bbq. It was a joke, nothing smartass about it.
HIM: >Thumbs emoji
HIM: I’m going to stop initiating anything. Because it’s always such a struggle dealing with u.
ME: I'm sorry that you feel that way. You really don't see what I am trying to make a point of? It was a joke. Nothing more, nothing less. If you really wanted to come by to have bbq you would do it. Not sure you really intended to anyway. I mean, you won't even unblock me on the phone. So, why would you want to come over and have bbq? Honestly, it seems like you wanted to tease me with the idea, then find anything to change the plan so you can make me feel like I caused the cancelation and I suffer.
ME: Stop playing a victim. I innocently asked u about having a bbq. But like always u always want to act like i did any wrong when I point out your bs. You have a good night n stay thinking that way you that im the crazy one with the issue. ✌️
He meant "3K" not "$3" monthly mortgage.
This is one of the reasons, I prefer to talk in person rather than messaging/texting. Messaging/texting leaves too much room for miscommunication.
As for him blocking you and ignoring you, let him. Either he gets over it or he doesn't. Either way, not really your problem.