Hi? 19F met a 31M and i think i like him...a lot? help?
DUMBFRENCHIE - Sep 2 2022 at 07:41
hi so umm, i want to preface this by saying i don't know much about relationships in general and absolutely nothing about age gap relationships.
but essentially what has happened is that i met this guy (im too embarrassed to admit the means through which this occurred) and what started out as me asking for advice turned into staying up until 5am just talking. and he says things that he knows will make me blush and admittedly i found myself trying to get him to do the same. we only recently realized how much of an age gap there is between us.
but i'm worried that my naïvety this what makes me believe that there's a slightly flirtatious aura when we talk, and that he's just teasing me. especially because he's like the sweetest guy in the world and seems like he's never had an ingenious interaction in his life. but he'll do things like call my accent cute and he told me i don't think i am as attractive as others do, things like that. i had asked him if he thought that a relationship btw f&m could be 100% platonic and he said that he thinks there is always going to be some tension, but then he started teasing me about why i would even ask him that in the first place and so now i think he's only trying to make me flustered because he's figured out i may be developing a crush on him. am i insane to think that he might be feeling something too? do you think he thinks our age gap is a problem?
TL;DR: have an older guy friend and we make each other blush and i think i'm developing a crush but idk if he's just teasing me because i'm younger or if he might feel similar
I have no doubt that he is interested in you. Most guys would be, but for all the wrong reasons.
Guys that are interested in girls that much younger than them do it for 3 main reasons.
1. They want to have sex with and possibly brag about bedding a girl that much younger than them.
2. Because you have less life experience, you will be easier to manipulate and control.
3. Also because of a lack of life experience, you may not notice the bad things he does right away.
Now this isn't the case with all guys, but I would say at least 80-90%. There will be very few that are looking to enter into this relationship with the primary goal of forming a lasting relationship.
Also, it tosses out 1 big red flag. Apparently the females that are his age, already have no use for him. So he has to check into different groups.
You are technically an adult, so you can do what you want. Just be aware of the high potential for this to go bad.
That is not that big of an age differance. However if you want to go out and be with your younger friends he may get upset wanting you to be with him. At 19 I was no way ready to settle down. He could have a crush on you as well.But at 31 he might be thinking of settling down. I went out with much younger women than myself, I would of never dreamed of bragging about it.