Should I try and protect my friend?
I have a female friend who I think is making a serious mistake and Im not sure what to do. She is a convicted felon, which in and of itself isnt the issue. The problem is that she has another convicted felon freequenting her home and while she is friends with this person she doesnt want to ask this personto leave for fear of losing the friendship. She has children and if this association is discovered it could cost her her freedom and her children. Ive privately confronted the friend and expressed my concern; but this person was not receptive to my concerns. Ive considered turning this person in to the authorities; but hesitate to because I cant think of a way to do it without implicating my friend. This person has to go; so how do I get rid of them without risking my friends freedom?
You have no power here.
None. Zero. Zilch.
Your friend's conviction IS an issue. Non-felons can have any friends they like. More troubling is the fact that your friend is more invested in her friendship than she is in raising her children. Sounds harsh, but as you've described it, it's a fact. **She doesn't care as much about her own kids as she does this friendship.**
Being around other ex-cons increases her chances of getting back into the criminal lifestyle and re-offending. That's WHY the judge made this part of her sentence.
I'm not prejudiced. There are felons in my family (DUI vehicular manslaughter). We're making dinner plans with a felon in the next week or so. (some illegal financial dealings in his past) The difference between those men and your friend is they got out of prison and followed the sentencing orders given. They stayed away from other criminals. They renewed their efforts to lead a moral, law-abiding life, whether that meant church, making new friends, getting a different job, whatever it took.
I can't think of any way you can manipulate this to get rid of one person without also implicating your friend. And in the end, it's your friend's responsibility to live her life. You can't do it for her. Suppose this one person dropped off the face of the earth; your friend would still have to limit who she associates with. Other felons will turn up. SHE has to be the one to say 'no' to people. Your desire to manipulate the situation for her is treating her like she's a child, and that's wrong on your part. It's infantilizing.
Your description was a tad squirrelly. By 'frequenting her home' do you mean living with her? (Some freeloader who doesn't have any other place to go because he/she burned all his bridges?) I agree it's a terrible choice