Ruminating is getting too much
So lately all I've been thinking about in this 2 weeks is past issues especially involving my sister (twin). Years ago i regrettably was seeing this guy (only lasted 5 weeks). well my sister got involved she kept feeding this guy info about me sleeping with other guys,! which i really wasn't except once when we were taking a break, so my sister upon messaging him was suddenly making her p.p of herself (which she never does) like she wanted him to see her, asking where am i and that lasted for a week as we were apart. then her display pic was that quote of
am i reading in too much into this, i think my ego is getting to me and killing my self-esteem. like i feel hurt by the two especially my sister as at times i felt she would talk bad about me to men to make herself more attractive and talk about my insecurities i want to stop thinking about this as this was years back
Following with interest. A couple months ago, I started obsessing about something my PARENTS did - decades ago. They're dead. There will be no "closure" except what I provide for myself. I've gotten past it. I've had forty-some years to live my life and they had little input and no control over me during that time. "Forgive and forget" is a great concept, but for me, a [very] flawed mortal, sometimes I fall into the trap of wondering, "If only they had done X, maybe my whole life would have been different."
That's not likely, is it? But blaming somebody else for everything that I didn't like about my life seemed appealing for a while. It started again a couple days ago, and I actually told myself, "okay, feel sorry for yourself for another 20 minutes, then move on." I did just that.
Betrayal by anyone we care about would be hurtful. I can't imagine a twin. My sister and I aren't close, so insinuating herself into my relationships didn't happen. She wouldn't have had the information to pass on.
I guess, on the simplest level you could arrange negative reinforcement. Put a rubber band on your wrist. When you think about this, snap the rubber band. And remind yourself that this relationship was not destined to last if he was that easily alienated, and you two had a break DURING a five week romance! It wasn't meant to be, Sis just hastened the end.
Hi, OLDMAINER, Thanks for the advice, I know it's the ego and My sisters lies which she uses to shame me but i know they were planning solo sex other than my 3some idea, but i know i should be in the present especially to better my future, I'm sorry for your loss.
'The only thing that doesn't decompose when you bury it is pain".