Tinder date says she pregnant I think I’m being scammed
Aug 18th I had unprotected sex with a tinder hook up. Told her to get plan b she said she got it and took it. Then 6 or seven dats later she says it didn’t work and she’s pregnant and needs the money for an abortion. I give her the money. She tells me she’s done it. The next day after she asks me for money to buy food and pads as she needs them. I tell her sorry I’m broke. She says she doesn’t feel good. I tell her I’m sorry for all this. A couple weeks later she hits me up for money to go get drinks. I refuse to give her money. I ask her how’s she’s doing and feeling after the abortion. She says it’s fine. Fast forward to two days before Christmas she asks for money for food. And I tell her I don’t have money. Then she sends me a picture of the ultrasound says it’s a girl and that I’ll pay for it.
Can she be pregnant 7 days after we had sex?
Aww...don't be.... Human-made Problem? - Human Solution.
Yup, I've heard a little about this type of scam... a favourite among your female Sociopaths.
"Aug 18th I had unprotected sex with a tinder hook up. Told her to get plan b she said she got it and took it. Then 6 or seven dats later she says it didn’t work and she’s pregnant and needs the money for an abortion. I give her the money. She tells me she’s done it. The next day after she asks me for money to buy food and pads as she needs them."
She's not very subtle. If she'd merely asked for pads, maybe I'd believe her.
Plus, she presumably was that hard-up before she (very prematurely) "found out" she "was" pregnant... in which case, why would she risk getting pregnant (everyone knows kids cost) - not to mention, what type of woman, these days, would have unprotected sex, on a first date to-boot? I mean, if you can't afford to feed YOURSELF then why would you even entertain the idea of bringing another mouth into the equation! What - are we supposed to believe she's mentally retarded? ....Forrestina Gump?
(...Forrestina Bump? LOL)
Sociopaths are impulsive and take big risks, putting even their own safety at risk in the process, as well as the other person's (- no offence, but how was she to know you weren't riddled with STDs?). The only difference between a Spath female and male, is that whereas you'd think the latter were going for the Guinness Book Of Records for impregnating (before abandoning) the highest amount of women, the female feels this about kids: Ugh, icky, get it away from me!
They'll have them, only to use as HOOKS into the man (their target) so that he feels he can't just leave (i.e. run). However, if they can use a kid as a hook without even having to HAVE one for-real? EVEN BETTER. (Yup - cuckoo!)
Furthermore, they will get pregnant ("with hook") IF THEY REALLY HAVE TO, but usually as a last-resort. With this specimen, it would seem it's a FIRST resort!
She needs money and she needs it YESTERDAY. So that's why she isn't even bothering with priming you (just threatening).
"I tell her sorry I’m broke. She says she doesn’t feel good. I tell her I’m sorry for all this. A couple weeks later she hits me up for money to go get drinks."
DRINKS??? For what purpose - an attempt at DIY abortion? What a crock.
"I refuse to give her money."
Good for you - well done!
"I ask her how’s she’s doing and feeling after the abortion. She says it’s fine. Fast forward to two days before Christmas she asks for money for food. And I tell her I don’t have money. Then she sends me a picture of the ultrasound says it’s a girl and that I’ll pay for it.
Can she be pregnant 7 days after we had sex?"
Good for you!
1. A genuine person would have sent - (as well, a genuine would have WANTED to have sent!) - the ultrasound first. (Got her!)
2. It's the second ultrasound (11-13 weeks) that reveals gender, not the first. (Got her!)
3. There are no symptoms that early on. Women suspect and THEN grab for a test, once their next Period fails to materialise.
4. She's a crap actor with no sense of Continuity because on the one hand she's claiming to be planning to keep the "baby" (some other person's ultrasound, photoshopped?...ordered from the Dark Web?) WHILST asking for money for alcoholic drinks. But then I guess alchohol never DID hurt an ultrasound print...unless you spilt your drink all over it, of course.
I could go on. But I don't need to.
You did the right thing.
Target: 1 ....... Social Predator: BIG FAT ZERO.
PS: Now ignore her. If she's genuine (despite not a nice woman) she will pursue it - even when you email her to say: I have been formally advised to demand a Paternity Test and not to hand over one more Penny until I have it.
(It is I, Soulmate, who is 'formally' advising you - so that's no lie! (lol))
(While I'm at it - if she tries to persist with the (idiotic) threateing communications, insist on, and give any reply ONLY to, emails. If you must respond to a text, make it only this, only the once: "Emails only, please", and nothing else.)
As she's, IMO, too obviously a 'petty' scammer, this behaviour of yours will put her RIGHT off for being TOO MUCH LIKE HARD WORK. Plus, as I say, her Nought To Sixty In Under 2 Seconds job, shows she doesn't even have TIME for any of this 'faffing around' (because either she owes someone ugly money, or needs more gear, or some such in that vein. So I wouldn't be surprised if she suddenly, POOF!, ceases as she hurriedly switches targets (they have lots of potential targets at one time, not just you).
Thank you! I really appreciate the response. Dealing with this is hard. So she had to be pregnant before me. That’s not my kid or it is a scam. I figured if it was real I’d have other people calling me and stuff. Or other numbers messaging me. Because I blocked her number.
You're welcome! And - "Dealing with this is hard." - that's an understatement-and-a-half?!
Since you managed to attract one, thereby proving yourself "tasty Narc num-nums" as I call it - methinks you had better do some web research on female Narcissistic Sociopaths a.s.a.p. Because UNLESS one learns-up straight after their first brush - Malignant Narcissists tend to come in Threes, getting worse each time (unless this wasn't your very first?).
"The gorgeous humans, who fall into the traps of a sociopath aka who fall into the traps of a narcissist, are some of the most amazing humans on the planet.
If they sense you will possibly reveal them publically or to authorities as the wrongdoer expect some kind of deep smear. This is how they protect themselves, by weaving this kind of false and fraudulent set-up, putting you in the guilty seat.
The men who fall into this hell are incredible – as are the women… this though, is a case for so many of us who feel “there are no good men out there“. I’m here to tell you that there are.
There are indeed good men. The one’s who I work with in recovery sessions blow me away with their kindness, their pride in monogamy, their respect for women, and their huge hearts. Good men exist – and the female sociopaths who prey upon them count upon this goodness to twist them around. – This is how every sociopath works. Our normal, our innate goodness and human qualites are snatched up and used to swing us like a cat by its tail."
"...They’re identical to male sociopaths in their empty souls and evil guts. For them, using feminine charm and lurid sexuality to take and to ruin is fair play. Depending upon our assumptions about what it means to be female, we’re possibly in for a harder and darker ride."
"...Being 100% supported financially by their male prey is a go-to for female sociopaths; they do hit the jack-pot fairly readily with this one sliding right into this traditional relationship dynamic.
All the while they’re sleeping with a whole team, a fleet, a crew, a slew of other men, women or both just as male sociopaths do. Please, see a doctor and have STD tests done. Female sociopaths are just as evil as male sociopaths. There’s no sugar and spice to be found inside the outwardly female pathological user."
"Pregnancy: a Smoke Screen for “Normal
Unexpected or not, pregnancy can bring the sweet scent of “normal” and more importantly big bucks for years and years to a female sociopath. And guess what, it doesn’t matter if she has this innocent child with a male or female target.
Women of antisocial personality disorder, ASPD – also many times called narcissists and thoght to be NPD, have fewer children than male sociopaths. The male sociopath aka narcissist populates the earth indiscriminately with many children that they leave by the wayside. Female sociopaths want to bear children in limited quantities for some pretty basic reasons:
The annoyance of pregnancy; it puts a damper on scamming
Pregnancy makes changes in their looks perceived to reduce their seductiveness
Children are not genuinely wanted and are not loved; they are a meal ticket"
A MEAL TICKET. Including *literally*, in this one's case!
"Aside from possessing a child creating the necessary public persona of “normal”, female sociopaths have children for these other reasons: money, money, and money. Once a child is on the scene they can legitimately demand support and whether married or not, they take men to court to get it. In marriage and in divorce this plot includes taking your property.
Unwanted and surprise pregnancies or coerced “plans” for children all have the same motivation and result. Poking holes into condoms and lies about birth control or infertility are basic for a sociopath. If you have children with a female sociopath, consider DNA testing the babies. The results might not change your feelings for the children, but they can absolutely change court orders.
Children can bring big-bank to the female sociopath, and while you may be willing to voluntarily support financially in some way, the court-ordered maintenance is extortion when the pregnancy is a surprise, or attributed to the wrong man."
Have a good read and, any questions - feel free. :-)
PS: "unprotected sex with a tinder hook up"
Don't expect you'll be doing that again in a hurry, eh.
Thank you! Looking for prayers. I’m hoping it’s a scam because I blocked her after our last text.
Okay so need help figuring this out. We hooked up on Aug 17 or 18. Her ultrasound says 11-12-22 and she’s days she’s 14 weeks and six days on that date. Is this child mine?
OMG, I missed this at the time! Huge apologies - are you still there?
My honest answer is, I don't know - especially since I don't know whether you mean 11th Dec or (the American way) 12th Nov. For speed's sake, however, what you could do is phone the hospital, ask to speak to the staff in the Pre-Natal Ultrasound Department (saying you have a couple of important questions regarding a recent scan result) and ask them. They'll be able to tell you.
First, you can try to find out when she has a period around the time you had an intercourse. In every fertility app you will find ovulation/fertility days so you can compare dates. You can also ask her to do genetics tests to know who the father is. If I am not wrong, this is possible before a baby is born.