I can’t break up with him, any advice would be nice
BILLIEKARA - Dec 29 2022 at 19:35
I’m so unhappy in my relationship and have fell out of love, Iv felt this way for along time and I just can’t act on it. I hate confrontation Iv been close to speaking up but I always back down and think just keep trying it might come back but it’s really not what I want.
Iv looked up advice online but I just can’t seem to follow through with it I’m so scared because I know it’s gonna break his heart, my hearts beating so fast just putting this out for people to know
I want out I just don’t have the courage to do it
it's always sad when a relationship doesn't work out. This is what dating is FOR, though; it's to see if we have enough in common for a lifetime together. If you didn't feel sad or if you totally ignored your partner's feelings, you'd be a terrible example of a human.
It might help to remember you're not doing your boyfriend any favors by staying with him, not in the long run. Every week you stay with him he isn't free to pursue someone else who could fall in love with him and love him the way he deserves. What's happened isn't anybody's fault - the two of you probably each did your best, but (sadly) most romances don't last forever. Most of us aren't going to end up with the first person who makes our heart beat faster.
"Confrontation" is a pretty loaded word. You're not checking his alibi for when a bank was robbed. You're informing him that your feelings have changed, or that some deal-breaker has come to your attention, and it can't be ignored any longer.
I remember a young woman years ago, coming to pick up her parent at work. She was home for a vacation from another country, and part of the reason was her ex-boyfriend had told her [finally!] that he didn't want children, and didn't foresee ever wanting them. She wasn't upset about that, exactly. What she found frustrating was that he told her that he'd felt that way FOR THE WHOLE SECOND YEAR OF THEIR RELATIONSHIP, and just didn't say anything, hoping she'd change her mind.
So, she'd spent a whole twelve months of the two years total in what she thought was a serious relationship - that was going nowhere, really. The good news is that she returned to the dating world, married a wonderful man, and had two children, one now adult, one almost there.