It frustrates me that everyone I know has seems to have to someone?
but I don't.
Like family. Co workers. Customers.Friends. My sisters friends. Their parents.
Hi there CP,
What I feel you are saying is that you would like a partner like you see everyone else in your life has. I think this is completely normal and expected for most people!
Having been with my husband for 31 years (yes! a long time)..I tend to see these things as a matter of timing. There are times in our lives to focus on our own goals and interests and when the time is right, the right person will come along. (We need to use wisdom in discerning if this truly IS the person who is best for us!)
If you are a praying person, this would be something to pray about...even praying for that person who may come into your life and the struggles or needs that they have now.
We can look for a person to care for us, and to fill up the spaces in our hearts. I believe there is another option, and that is rather than looking for love, it is to give love away to hurting people!
It is amazing how that can fill our own hearts as well.
I was a volunteer in a homeless shelter in a large city, and loved it so much! I felt like the homeless gave me much more than I gave them. (I helped them with clothing etc, and served meals). Taking a moment to listen and show that you care, is priceless! Sometimes the homeless are referred to as "Invisible people," because in this society that can be the way they feel.
Even just making eye contact with a simple, "Hi there!" can be so affirming for someone who feels like they aren't worth much.
In this world, there are so many hurting people who could use the love you have to give. Children and the elderly are often so appreciative of the small things that we can do, and it makes them feel valuable.
So just a thought. Until that "right person," comes along...maybe reach out to others which will also make you a more empathetic person in any future relationship that you may have.
All the very best to you, friend!!
Risenshine has given good advice.
I would add that pursuing a hobby or doing volunteer work would very likely put you in contact with other people with whom you already have something in common. If your town/city has a recreation committee, a land use committee, school board, (you get the idea) there are your opportunities. Are there adult ed classes where you live? Drawing, watercolors, photography, salsa dancing? Political parties are active *all the time,* not just election years.
Don't settle for Mr. /Ms. Right Now if there are major issues going on in his or her life. Money issues, personality disorders, drug or alcohol addiction don't go away on their own. (I know from personal experience)
Good luck. I can empathise with the loneliness.