CHOCOLATEGIRL - May 4 2023 at 05:40
Am I wrong for constantly being and feeling angry ?! I've been dealing with this guy for almost 4 years he has a daughter and so do I but I've had an ectopic pregnancy and he left me high and dry and I've also had a pregnancy after which he kept bothering me while I was high risk telling me having a baby wasn't a good idea so I got so tired of him complaining and telling me how a baby is not good so I decided to get an abortion . Every time we argue he always try to make me feel a way about his daughters' mom and always telling me how I'm a loser and he treats me like shit smh he tells me I need to heal and to stop blaming him and also after the abortion he said he would be there for me and again he left me high and dry ....
The only thing 'wrong' here is that you keep putting up with such insensitive and lousy behavior.
Tries to make you feel *what* way about his daughter's mom?
I would agree to healing and stopping the blame. It's time for you to have a word with him. The word would be "Good-bye."
Honestly, he treats you terribly, is always telling you you're a loser, why do you continue to stay? "Because I love him" is not a good answer. We can fall in love with practically anybody - but fortune favors us if we love someone who treats us well. There are better men out there, and you deserve better.
He’ll say hurtful things for example he keeps bothering me about my child’s father he’ll just randomly start arguments with me and say disgusting things like oh you had a child w a fat Latino etc etc and so when I say things like and you chose to have a child with an unfit woman who has 5 kids and can’t properly care for them and is on welfare you didn’t chase her to an abortion clinic and bother her like you did to me and then he’ll say things like at least her vagina was phenomenal at the time for me to keep the child .
His mom and Grandmother has called me out my name disrespected me for no reason , I’ve never once did anything to those people . When we got into an argument the time that I was expecting and he blurted out that I’m pregnant his mom said to him “Damn , you fucked up “ like I’m a bad woman , it feels reversed I’m the one with the degree and own place but yet his family fix they mouth to try to talk down about me . He’s always portrayed this story line about me as if I’m crazy and delusional ! One minute he talks bad to me and the next minute he’s telling me he loves me and is a different way with me … it’s confusing
Not only has his mom and Grandmother disrespect me. , his daughter also has disrespected me and stuck up her middle finger has been laughing in my face just overall being disrespectful and I feel dumb because not only is the father disrespecting me now child is and it feels like I’m the only one who’s lost out .. paying for things , I’m a single parent and he knows everything that I’ve been through and he uses those things against me to hurt me … it hurts a lot because I lost a tube I had to go through surgery and then I was pregnant again to only be taunted and bothered and you’d think he care but he doesn’t he’s said things like fuck that child and all this other stuff but wants to bring his child around me and want me to be nice to his childs’ mother and I have so much anger in me because he’s done a lot to me and so have his kid !
He’s always said things to make me feel like I wasn’t worthy , he’s always put his female friends before me … pretty much every woman even if their new he holds them higher than me and treats me like shit …. Idk why I can’t leave !
I always feel like maybe he’ll change and be better but I always find myself feeling like I’m competing 24/7 and questioning things . Whenever I do ask him a question he’ll deflect and say things like oh “ did your dad do that with your mom “ or when your child father was beating you did you ask these same questions ?