I’m not priority for my boyfriend right now.
NACHA - May 6 2023 at 22:50
I have a long distance relationship and it’s very important to have contact with my boyfriend obviously, but I don’t feel like my boyfriend puts any effort in communicating and it’s just very hard for me, because I feel very lonely and it makes me think if it’s even worth it …
He said we will not be able see each other for 4+ months because he will have to go to different country to help his parents and he also said he has to work, so I said that I can come visit him and he said anyway that he will not have time to give to me. That made me kinda sad, because it’s just not working very well when we are not seeing each other and he seems like he is not even worried about that, he is really focused on something else and I do understand that he needs to work, create something for himself and I absolutely support him in anyway, but I just feel I’m not in the picture and it worries me …
He visited me almost a month ago and before that we didn’t se each other for 3 months like you are expecting something amazing like you can’t get enough of each other, well …no that didn’t happened. I didn’t feel anything from him.. not really wanted …He rather watched movie than cuddle with me. So yeah it’s very complicated and I don’t know what to do …if I should wait for him or not. Like if I’m not in the picture right now, will I ever be ? He is not even bothered by us not seeing each other, he just repeat himself what he needs to do. Like I have also lot of things to do, but I still manage to make time for him. I love him very deeply, he is my best friend I have no one else and it breaks my heart to even think about breaking up, but isn’t it better to be alone than being with someone and still feel alone ?
So I searched for a forum to ask someone about their experience and what do you think it would be best to do.
Sorry for my English, it’s not my first language.
Look at your BF'S actions & they'll tell you where you stand. Your post tells us that you have good idea already of where your relationship is going. You can put in from your end, but if he doesn't from his, regardless if you're LD or not, then you're wasting your time.
LDRs need extra attention for them to succeed even for couples who have been married for years & are apart because of circumstances too numerous to list here. It's a rock where plenty of relationships have failed simply because of the distance apart from each other without even looking for other reasons.
Sad to say but yes, you're better off alone then being used by a guy who tells you straight what he needs to do, rather than discussing with you, what you guys need to be doing together to ensure that you stay together.
It very easy for us to say, but in times of doubt where relationships are concerned, you need to listen your gut & forget about the heart.