I am a remarried mother of six children (2 biological and 4 adopted.)
I am a 45-year old woman who is remarried with six children. I was married for 10 years in my first marriage and have 2 sons from that marriage. I have been remarried for 7 years and I legally adopted my husband's four daughters from his previous marriage.
My husband's late wife was actually one of my best friends and my college roommate. She passed 11 years ago from a Car Accident.
She passed away around the time of my divorce and after a couple of months after her passing, we started to see each other.
I had gotten divorced after she passed. I was so lonely after my divorce and he was lonely after her passing. We confided in each other and immediately fell in love.
We were together for 4 years and then we got married. I immediately adopted the girls and they are happy with it. I am their mom.
I also had the middle names changed for my identical twins. Their middle names were from her mother’s name and the other one’s middle name was her middle name. I changed that so that one of them had MY mother’s name who died from Cancer and the other one now has my Maiden Name as her middle name.
My Late Friend's Mother name was Catherine Isabelle. That was the full middle name of one of the twins. My Late Mother's Name was Lenore Prudence. I changed the middle name of my twin to that name was her full middle name. Her Permanent full middle name is Lenore Prudence.
My Late Friend's Middle Name was Marie. That was the full middle name of the other twin. My Maiden Name is Hogan. I changed the middle name of my other twin to that name as her permanent middle name, Hogan.
This was 100% my decision and I do not regret doing this. Since I legally adopted them and they are now my children, it was best that I had their original middle names removed from their birth certificates and had more appropriate middle names for them.
My husband was okay with it. He had no issue. This was completely my decision to do this. I still give them pictures of their late mother (my late friend).
Anytime that they have questions about their late mother, I am always happy to talk to them about her.
I will always believe that I did the right thing.
After the twins were born, exactly 4 months before her accident, we were talking and she told me that she always saw me as a second mother to her daughters.
After she passed, I vowed to take care of the girls.
The girls are 16, 14, and 12 (Identical Twins).
Hi Mother Of Six,
So what is your question?