Feel like a friend and tenant and not like a wife... so stressed
My partner and I have 1 child together and I have a child from previous marriage.
At first my relationship was nice, we had a child quite quickly into our relationship.
My partner has OCD very bad, and it shows in everything he does down to cleaning, and routines and even daily activities. He hardly ever spends time with me, and says nasty things to me all the time quite rude about the way I look. I don't feel myself, my health is so bad due to stress, I don't feel in love with him anymore, feel like I'm just bothering for the kids sake.
I know deep down if I hadn't had any kids yet I'd have left a long time ago. I don't need him I know it and I tell him the truth and he doesn't care or try to change.
I am at the end of my tether. And always upset or crying feeling stuck.. I have no friends or family for support and need someone who can be an ear to talk and de stress too.
Hi! I'm sorry that you are going through this! I have never been married so I'm not going ti act like I know what I'm talking about. And I'm also not going to tell you to just walk away from something that could possibly be changed. I suggest you talk to him. Tell him how you're feeling. I know that in relationships with people, there has to be trust and communication. If you do talk to him, maybe you should see how he reacts, if you told him about what you're going through. If he shows sympathy to your problem, then there's a sign that there is room for improvement. But if he doesn't, then idk. I hope this ends well for you and I'll pray that it does.
Don't feel lonely. There is a couple of people here at the moment. We read the posts. We hear you. We sympathise.
Your handle 'dailylifestruggle' says it all. I get it. Trust me.
I am just an every day person. No credentials whatsoever professionally but I have a mind and thoughts about your situation.
Upfront disclaimer that I'd never say anything with the intention of hurting you. From what I've read you have been hurt enough.
I always fear responding that I'll say something wrong but I'll brave up and give it a go.
You said these words and it broke my heart! I felt your pain!
'He hardly ever spends time with me, and says nasty things to me all the time quite rude about the way I look'.
This isn't love. This isn't like. The problem isn't you!!!
A person with a heart that beats and is capable of love/caring would NEVER say such a shallow and hurtful comment.
When you truly LOVE somebody you avoid anything that will make them cry. You don't inflict nasty words that make them
doubt themselves or feel unlovable. He's causing you pain. That is not acceptable.
In the words of famous singer Cher 'words are like weapons and they wound sometimes'.
Partner has issues! These issues are taking a toll on your partner. Partner is lashing out because partner is not feeling good
about themselves! It isn't you! Trust me!
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, dry those eyes. Look in the mirror and say out loud 'it is him with the problem. I feel sorry
for him however I won't tolerate being disrespected and not appreciated'.
You deserve more than this! Life is too short to spend it with somebody who doesn't care if they make your face crumple in anguish. HUG SENT YOUR WAY!
ELISHAWATERS096 - Oct 11 2023 at 05:52
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