One-sided relationship, how can I progress further with this situation
To put it simply, I had saw a girl posting images of herself on reddit asking for people to rate her and I thought she was very cute. She had deleted the initial thread so when I decided to message her I has chosen to say that I saw her post in another thread, just so it seemed more-so natural. We spoke for about an hour and a half then afterwards it was complete silence for a few months, fast forward to last week I decided to reach out to her again and we had a conversation for about 4 hours until she went to bed. As the week progressed I continued to message her and we'd have conversations that lasted for hours, the issue was however is that I was the only one initiating any conversation.
Even though I was the only one initiating conversation she still seemed very receptive and interested so I didn't think it was too big of a deal. As time went on I decided to ask her for a photo of her face, mainly to grow the bond I thought we had slowly been forming over time. She was very against the idea of sharing any type of personal information or photos online, which I can understand. The thing that felt the worse however was that she viewed the conversations we were having as artificial in a way.
She believes that friendships and relationships can't be formed online due to the fact that you truly don't know the person you are speaking to, she had mentioned to me that even though the conversations were fun, that at the end of the day we will truly never know each other and that speaking online and in person are drastically different. She believes the only way you can be friends with a person is by being there with them and caring for their unfiltered versions of themselves. Personally, I believe the opposite. I think that anyone is capable of forming a bond over the internet, the only barrier being the ability to see them.
I really do enjoy speaking to her and she is very nice and interesting, ideally I would want to build up the relationship to the point where she can trust me. But I am fearing that my continuous efforts to make something work will all be in vain, she has mentioned I have too much of a serious outlook on this. Is there anything I can really do? Should I continue trying to speak to her and build trust? Or just let go? With how things are now, I personally feel that if I were to continue going, I'd be stuck in a cycle of having void conversations that don't lead anywhere.
Join her OnlyFans!!
Joking of course, but I have noticed OF creators lurking on reddit and bating people into joining. I've even had a similar conversation with one of them but I met her on Tinder and didn't find out for weeks that she was only on Tinder to get more attention on her OF and not looking for any kind of relationship at all. This kind of sounds like another case of that. I'm surprised your conversations got as far as they did. It really sucks but I think you probably should let this one go. Like so many others, she's probably posting stuff like that on reddit just to get attention. I see it a lot.
I'm a wrinkly compared to you two - please, either of you, enlighten me over this 'OnlyFans' site. It sounds Fan-tast-ic for meeting well-balanced, GENUINE individuals (nnnnot).
(Good post, Fangtail! - and, welcome, Smysterious.)