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my world flipped when my man got caged up. I'm dying for those hugs and touches, you feel me? Life's a mess without him – no warm embrace, just these cold, lonely walls. Struggling hard, deep in my own chaos, feeling the withdrawals kick in. It's like a constant ache, you know? Hugging memories, but they ain't real. Got me battling demons, searching for comfort in the craziest places. Just a junkie crackhead missing her man, yearning for a touch that's locked away. In this chaos, love's the only high I crave. #LockedLove #StruggleReal

Need to be touched and hugged constantly

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Hi NICOTIN, sorry for the long wait already. I'll be with you tomorrow unless any other poster beats me to it.

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Hi again, It's a huge adjustment - it IS going to hurt and keep you feeling all unanchored and lost at sea until you get more and more used to it. Important to fill the gap, even if by rote without your heart in it, to ease the pain of the Grieving process (google about the elements/stages). Self-discipline is key. (That one has to use self-discipline to motivate themselves to coldly/disinterestedly go through the motions in order to inject some satisfaction and fun into their life, says it all. But it does start to work. First just little pockets here and there ...and then for days at a time, where you have Good Day/Bad Day. Don't fight the bad day - use it as your permission to relax and let your over-busy brain process this massive 'train-shunting' event in peace (without your Guilt at so-called lazing around getting in the way; you wouldn't say thatif you could SEE the size of In-Tray in your head...Football pitch, anyone? Lucky that we beans process very speedily. But this is a lot and it takes time, so - what life-enhancing habits can you think of picking-up? What did you want to do but never had the opportunity while partnered-up? What's on your Bucket List? Who would you like to become closer friends with? Have you contacted any charities who help with women in your position? Did you always want a pet? I know you don't want to think about these "petty" things but - trust me, they absolutely do help and majorly. Don't avoid the processing but DO add painkillers to your now emptier space. Sense? As for affection: No-one else to hug? Have you ever wanted a cat? Very therapeutic, they are. And very sensitive to their owners emotional moods and needs. Far more GIVING than dogs, IF you treat them gently with respect. Brilliant company. AND trainable (which is amazing fun as well as a way to increase your patience and endurance abilities. But it sounds very fresh to for now, just a create a reliable/steady little daytime and evening routine for yourself. Meanwhile - which demons and what crazy places? And why are you addicted to Cocaine - how did that come about? Cocaine is NOT good for grief. Suggest you switch to Mother Nature's own miracle medicine (weed). It'll get your creative juices going and reignite your love of solitary play. Coke makes you need someone to talk talk talk and play play play with. Did you know that? If you do manage to switch from Class A to C (or barely that these days) then - NO Indica (downer). You want Sativa (upper) or a cocktail but with Sativa the main incredient. Virtually all the victims of life or abusive people I've ever known have turned to weed. AND eventually come naturally and almost unnoticeably off it or down to solely occasional-recreational once the storm's blown over. As long as you don't let it control YOU, it's fantastic for trauma...REALLY gets you interested and sucked-in to things for hours and hours. It ALSO makes sitting and mulling over your demons, easy peasy, not daunting AT ALL, why have I never done this efore day (etc)... Plus, it's a strong emotional as well as physical painkiller but which DOESN'T encourage you to bury your pain, and instead face it without any fuss. Lastly but not leastly -no-one has ever over dosed on it because you can't. If you take too much you fall asleep. Also, you actually only need the tiniest amount (if you know how to get the best out of it). That and a cat? Sorted! PS: we've currently got another lady in your position with her own thread, under alias Thea. She doesn't want to chat (or hasn't yet) to other posters except for me, but reading it could help you see there are so many women out there in your same boat. If you're desperate to chat to her here or on her thread, I could always ask her for you? Again - same boat might make all the difference. Let me know. PS: Sozzies. :( How long a stretch?

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PS: either get one of those weighted blankets that hug you or start sleeping for a while on your sofa, on your right side, and squidge up to the back cushions because that can feel similar to being spoon-hugged from behind. Or bed up to the wall, pillows doing the same. And keep some talk/phone-in radio going as much as possible (company and distraction). Also, do Left-Brained things to shut your Right hemisphere up/make it go to sleep. Crosswords and other puzzles, reading the newspaper, maths, studying to ensure you gain from this period. All tried-and-testeds. Effect and willing involvement creeps up on you gently...2 weeks or so if you keep forcing yourself every day. And LOADS more self-healing things you can do.

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