What shall I do?
Im so confused and i really need help, ive been with a lovely guy for 5 years and i love him. When we first met i found out his twin brother (who my boyfriend really wants to be like) really had a thing for me n even stalked me, he kept trying it on but after a while stopped and left me alone. I thought it had all gone away. A few months ago me n my boyfriend had a arguement and decided to hav a break, we were apart for just a few weeks. I was so depressed and ended up getting drunk with my girl friends and spending the night with an old flame, to my horry my boyfriends brother had seen me n him together kissing and going into his house and took photos. When me n my boyfriend got back together i decided not to tell him n for a few weeks it was ok - untill now, my boyfriends twin has told me if i dont sleep with him he will show the photos and ruin everything n i dont know wot to do, i dont wanna risk losing him! x
Hi Sally, sounds like you are in a bit of a pickle, but basically you need to use Ross's (from Friends) famous phrase "we were on a break!". The break was something you both agreed to in the first place, and this kind of thing often happens where people get upset and need a total change in lifestyle which can be out of character for a short period before they start to see things in focus again.
As you say, you were on a downer, and your emotions were so mixed, that you weren't capable of making rational decisions... You can't sleep with this guy because he is threatening you, because even if you slept with him once, he could just keep on threatening you at all different points in your life - the pictures won't just disappear, and you don't know for sure whether any copies have been made, or the photos are on his computer for example.
Let us know what happens Sally, hope that other people have got some helpful advice... xxx
the best thing 2 do is jst tell your boyfriend before the other guy does otherwise hearing it from some1 else will make things alot worse
hope that helps you
Your boyfriends twin sounds like a complete w***er. His only thinking bout himself in all of this. Tell your boyfriend, if he really loves you he will understand. Lou x
I know you feel very upset about your actions but I believe that telling your boyfriend what happened is the best choice, due to the circumstance. You have to think will he be more mad at you if you say I made a mistake I understand what I did was wrong, or would he be more mad if you had sex with his brother. Think about what will hurt him more. Family hurts and It will be for your best interest to deal with it now instead of having sex with his own family.