I am broken emotionally
i dont know why i am on this site..may be i desperately want the answers to my questions..actually i was in a relationship for 7 years with a muslim guy and i am hindu. Initial 4 years we were together in school and college..at that time he was good with me..he cared for me..loved me..promised me marriage..i could see that thing in his eyes that he loved me but he did ignored me for his friends in college times and never respected my feeling that i dont like his overindulgence with his friends at the cost of ignoring me..but when the time came when he was about to leave the country..he got some sort of physical..which matters to me..right after doing stuff..he said that people in our age do this stuff..so dont think too much..god knows what made him to say that..at time of leaving he promised me that he will come for me and marry me..and he went..i carried on a 3 year long distance relationship with him..in the beginning everything was fine..he used to call me online on a continuous basis..he was possesive about my deeds..used to call me..but after a year..he started behaving strangely...he dint shared his password with me,behaved rudely.became commitment phobic,DINT SHARED HIS SEXUAL FEELINGS WITH ME ANYMORE,and slowly and steadily started to give me less time by saying he has work to do or he is frustated..eventhough he has time to play online games with his friends...even when i was operated last year..he dint called me to inquire how was i makking excuse that he forgot about it...eventhough i reminded him 4 days earlier that m gonna b operated. NOW ITS BEEN SEVEN TO EIGHT MONTHS HE HASNT CONTACT ME..NOR ONLINE CHAT,NOR CALLS,NOR SMS.WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM THAT WHY HE IS DOING SO HE SAID HE DID NOT HAVE TIME,HE IS FRUSTARTED BECAUSE OF HIS CAREER,BLAH BLAH,EVENTHOUGH I KNOW HE IS COMING ONLINE TO PLAY GAMES (now can a busy person play online games),,even i found out that he has logins in porn sites..he never tried to contact me or to rectify the situation between us...and now 1 month back i broke up with him..to see how does he react..he just send one message that i hav my raesons..when i dint replied..he never made another effort..its been a month now..i am losing all my sane..please guys help me out..i cant understand why he did that..how did he changed so much..please help out friends.
i am a muslim, so i know that muslim men always marry in their own society, and i know about your culture too, that there should not be any physical relationship before marriage, u did wrong. but it happens with almost everyone. now its time to move on, i know its hard but you have to be strong. love yourself and forget about the past. boys are only interested in 1 thing, and i think you know that. you lost your own value in his life. i am sorry for saying this. God bless you.
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i did it ol out of love...i did wrong or he did wrong? he hasn't approached me me genuinely even once
I completely understand how you feel. I know it's hard to let go of the person we love so much.
Too bad, we can't tell our heart who we should fall in love with.. It just come unexpectedly... Like a thief in the night.
Falling in love with a Muslim or any with different culture, belief or religion come along with some conflicts.
But real love always concurs all.
No matter what...
Maybe the love you and this Muslim guy is not that strong enough to handle conflict and distance.
Be thankful that the love you have for him keep growing inspite of everything... To this guy, just pray for him, maybe he is really struggling there...searching for himself, and the only escape is to play computer games--- we never know--NO ONE KNOWS but GOD of what his real reason is.
Have you heard about the quote that says"WHAT YOU DON'T KNOW WON'T HURT YOU". So just leave it...
And the best revenge is move on. May you learn your lessons... God has amazing plan for you.. Somebody better will come along.
So cheer up girl!
Leave him alone and marry another guy.
Of course it won't be eazy as you've been with this Muslim guy for years but if you're not meant to be together then just leave. Have a wonderful life, meet some good women friends and if you interested to be a Muslim (and its good) then try to find a new imam who can help you to understand more about Islam.
This world is not about him but about YOU, you are PRECIOUS,so don't give up!
Once you think you meet your Mr right (again later), don't wait too long to marry him. With marriage, you can have alot of things you want from him, including his care, time and loyalty.