Hi all, i have a problem to do with my ex girlfriend. We were together for 6 months but knew eachother in our workplace for 2 years, she was very nice and hot but also straight; anyway 6 months ago she told me she had a crush on me, i kissed her and we started seeing eachother. The problem was i was already seeing another girl in my workplace bad i know and a mistake i shudnt of made but it happened. I finished with the girl i was seeing around a few weeks after, then getting in a relationship with my most current gf. We were so happy, fell for eachother quite quickly and soon enough i fell in love with her and vice versa.
Two moths into our realtionship we both still worked at the same workplace and i had a holiday booked with my ex gf and a few friends which was paid for, stupidly i still went but came home a week early due to panic attacks and jus knowing it wasnt right being there, i know i hurt my current gf by going on this holiday and it was a big mistake. Anyway a few more months passed and we were happy still well so i thought we seen eachother regulary and i was so in love with this girl shes just perfect, but we were arguing quite alot over stupid stuff...anyway around 3 weeks ago now she finished our realtionship biggest eva broken heart
she said she could not forget about how i hurt her by going on holiday with my ex and this was disrepectful and she could not forget it she had tried but cannot! She also claims i was flirting with my ex ex in work and this was also disrepectful bit i dont think i was i stayed friends as i knew i had the holiday coming up...she also says she cannot see herself telling her friends and family about being with a girl as she is not a lesbian she freaked out big time when thinking about this and then finally after breaking up and having a "talk" she says she cannot think about being intimate with me, kits wrong, so she has actually convinced herself being with me in that way was wrong. She still wants to be friends, and she was still calling me babe and staying at my house but no intimacy, spooning of a night and a quick peck before bed but nothing else...she was still texting and ringing me everyday...? Suddenly now shes changed shes always angry with me, snapping at me, avoiding seeing me, i dont know were i stand with her? Its killing me so bad as i love this girl more than ive ever loved anyone in my life and i know i can make her happy, and i know shes been happy and i know shes now misreable
as am i? What can i do to show her im sorry, it was a mstake and she can trust me? What can i do to get her back? How can i make her see we were good together? I hate being without her, and my life feels so incomplete without her in it i am truely heartbroken?
I would back off she obviously has some issues I would briefly explain that you are aware that she is angry about some things and hurt that you think a great deal of her but that you cannot talk to her or be friends until she is prepared to look at her behavior, in my experience you cannot resolve anything whilst she is in the mind frame back off some nd get on with enjoying your life I'm sure when she see your not responding to her behavior she may want to talk properly then