Background details as short as possible: We had been friends for 3 years, and she always knew that I liked her, and finally after 3 years she decided she wanted more than friendship with me, but explained that she wanted to go slow and she wanted to control the pace of the relationship because she still wasn't sure how she felt. So we dated for about 6 months, and truly had some great times together and I respected what she said by not making any major moves on her, and then she basically called it off. She said the reason was because she was frustrated that I didn't show enough affection for her and was mad at how slowly things were going. She didn't even give me a chance to explain my reasoning (I was honoring her request!!) and refuses to give me a second chance to show her how I really feel. I always wanted to show her how much I cared for her and to move faster but I thought that wasn't what she wanted. I'd do anything for another chance with her so that she can experience how I truly felt about her. She means more than she knows to me. Remember we were and still kind of are very good friends, so avoiding awkwardness is going to be a problem. Please give your critique on this letter that I am going to send her.
I don't expect you to respond because I fully understand where you stand, and I do respect that. The purpose of this letter is not to make you mad or to make things uncomfortable. If it does that, then I am sorry; but my feelings and thoughts have become overwhelming and that is why I am writing you this letter. It is painful to not be able to express those feelings now, especially when I know I should have done it earlier. At the very least, I hope this letter serves to encourage you to settle for nothing less than you deserve. I only want the best for each of us.
The last two months have been the most difficult time in my life that I have ever had to endure. 100% of the reason is you. You gave me a chance, and I blew it; even though I wish I could change it, I know I can't. To this day, that remains the biggest mistake in my life. But I don't fault myself for this difficult time. I have moved on from that mistake because I know I've learned from it. That's why 100% of the reason is you; because I'd be making an even bigger mistake to give up on you. You are the most beautiful girl I've ever known, and no girl comes close to bringing me more joy than you do. And there is not a girl is this world that I would stop at nothing for to make sure that she is protected, loved, and happy; except you. I don't want to live with that mistake of giving up.
I've been thinking and praying about this nonstop over the last two months. I believe that in every person's life, there comes a time when he has to lay everything on the line in order to fight for what he wants. I've never wanted anything more in my life than this. I want you. So I'm not going to be like every other guy you've ever known and just give up, because I know that I see things in you that other people don't see in you. I know I don't deserve you, but at this point, I am no longer scared to lay it out on the line and pour myself out for you. Because this is it, I've never felt more passionate about anything in my life and I'm not going to give up on this.
Meeting you has brought me so much happiness. We have learned so much about each other over the past few years, and I cherish every moment I get with you. Even in the last two months, we've still been able to overcome any uncomfortability and have some great times together.
You really do mean a lot to me...more than you know. Words cannot emphasize that enough. Even I don't completely understand it sometimes. It's something that comes naturally, and I can neither help it nor argue with it. Nothing makes me happier than to see you happy and taken care of. It might be too late to prove that to you. I can only hope that you haven't completely given up on me. At some point, what little we had was real, I just never gave us the chance to grow together.
It's not fair the way both of us approached our relationship. When you sent me that text last year and told me that you were seeking more than friendship, I guess I choked and got into this weird phase because I've never heard that from anybody before. Maybe I was just trying to survive the chance I had, to keep you; I wasn't actually living it out. I never wanted to go slow either, but that's what you told me you wanted at first. I apologize for that mistake. I know you were frustrated at the way things were going, but I was also frustrated. I just didn't act the way that I truly felt and the only reason that I did that was because I thought I was honoring and respecting what you told me. I'm embarrassed by the way I treated you. I didn't treat you the way you deserved to be treated because I was thinking with my head.
I've learned from you to trust my heart, not my head. That led me to write this letter!!!
I know something could have been there and I know something still could be there. I know that at some point you were feeling something and you know that I was feeling something, too. You would have never texted me in the first place unless you were searching for something...searching for the right person. I think we still have a chance if you would just let me act the way that I truly feel about you. We are not going to get there if I continue to treat you like a best friend, because that's not how I feel about you. Give me a chance to treat you right and make you happy. I know you think it would be very awkward to try again, but let's try to put that aside, throw our pride away, let it fly, and see what happens; because there is nothing in this world that can't be fixed by full hearts.
You deserve the best. There are many better guys out there than me, and I do try to be the best person I can be. Just know that I only want the best for you.
I think that this is a beautiful letter and I really hope that she sees what I can see in it and give you a second chance. I would forsure. I think love is a beautiful thing and if you truly feel this way just keep trying even if it is little things like a text to say I am thinking of you it woul work I think.
I agree with Familyfirst. I also think that this is a beautiful letter which is genuinely and sincerely written by a person who has so much love and care for the girl. Your letter didn't sound as if you were directly blaming her for telling you to slow down hence, you slowed down. In fact you were so apologetic of the situation when technically it wasn't merely your fault. Although, if I may be allowed to give you an honest comment, you were partly to be blamed too because you didn't try to talk it out one day if the slow pace is just right or are you both ready to go to next level. Or, maybe you could have asked if she's getting enough from how you treat her or should you show more because you still have so much more to give. However, having said that, your letter is with all honesty.
I like the part where you said, "I don't want to live with that mistake of giving up." -which you've mentioned at the end of your second paragraph. And you have said it again in your third paragraph,
Awww, I've written a long message but I don't know where it's gone!!! Will try to retrieve it and post it again.