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Choosing between head and heart

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I am having difficulty deciding to follow my head or my heart; between two women. My current Girlfriend (Jane) of 6 months who fits into my life perfectly in every way, likes, intrests, life philosephy and goals; everything about the situation is comfortable and easy. it is everything i should want for my future; there is nothing that I can put my finge on being wrong; except for my feelings for another woman (Sue). Sue and I have been friends for two years and her and I have always had a very strong bond even though we are from very different pasts and life expierience. I was always interested in persuing a relationship she was "not ready". I finally managed to get over my attraction to her and see other people and that is when I met Jane. However now Sue has told me that she is interested in a relationship. I told Sue that i wasn't willing to turn my back on a relationshipwith so much potential and we agreed to remain friends ..... yeh right. As much as I have tried to move forward with Jane; Sue's proclimation has thrown me for a loop; i thought that i was over her but clearly not. Now the question that I have is how do I choose? Both are great strong women and will be fine without me but one of them is going to be heart broken because both are in love with me; is it possible that I am in love with two women? How do i pick which path to follow? do I follow my head with Jane or my heart with Sue?

Choosing between head and heart

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That must be difficult.Always follow your heart!! u and jane been together 6 months focus on her and to find ways to grow yall relation ship even more,..ther gonna always be other people your attracted to.But if you really and truly love n care for jane then stick with her..follow your heart alwayss!!! Good Luck...

Choosing between head and heart

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I think that this i a really hard decision for you. I am in the exact same position as you at this moment in time, although slight differences.But today i have gone with my heart. Pretty weird to find a story on here that has the exact same problem as i 'had' until today. almost as i was meant to answer this question for you. What i think you should think to yourself is 'who do i see myself with for the rest of my life?, who am i going to love and cherish for the rest of my life without this problem cropping up ever again? and mainly, tell yourself that you only have one life. because you have. you are only human, everyone makes mistakes,its part of life. Its what we do in life that makes us the people we are today because im sure without any mistakes in the past we would never learn anything pending love/careers/life goals and such. So in short words i guess..haha i'd say go with your heart like i have. I feel like such a better person now :)

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