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Being used?

So I'm in a long distance relationship right now, We've been together for about 5 or 6 months but I've known him for a little over a year. I'm 19, hes 21, I have a job, hes currently unemployed. It seems like everything that I try to buy him isn't good enough. At first, he would just ask me for 10 dollars here and there, then I got him an early Christmas gift he asked for, which came up to 65 dollars. I know I've spent well over 100 dollars on him right now...and now he just asked if I could buy him a laptop, I said yes but changed my mind because I know that I probably can't afford it. He tells me he loves me all the time, and he calls me quite a bit....but sometimes I can't help but feel that hes using me. It just seems like hes not really thankful for the things that I get him...like hes always asking for something more. Hes never gotten me anything, like no homemade gifts or anything, like one time he wouldn't quit bugging me until I gave him 10 dollars. So am I being used? I love him a lot, and I really don't want this to be true...but I just wanted some opinions on my situation because I really don't know what to do right now. Thanks to anyone who decides to reply.

Being used?

I'm sorry to be the one who have to break it down to you, but yes, you're being used. A REAL man doesn't ask the woman he loves for money no matter how hard he is struggling. Sorry, Love. You need to get rid of him. Trust me, when he finds someone who have more money, he will leave you. So, you need to be the one who leave first. And for the record, he only says that he love you so you can fall for it and give him what he wants. Don't let him get the satisfaction that you'll always give him what he wants. You need to get a move on, Love. I've been with my husband for almost three years and he had NEVER asked me for money, even when he knows it damn well that he needs help. Please move on and find someone who would treat you with gifts and a lot of love. :)

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