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Anxiety and having babies

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I have been with my fiance for 3 years. I am 5 years older than him and would love to have children, sooner rather than later (I am 36). He suffers from anxiety and depression (mildly) and since we've been discussing having children I have noticed his anxiety escalate, which makes me feel awful. The only thing I've ever dreamt about all my life is having kids and now my dream is crashing down around me. I love my partner dearly and over the past 3 years i guess I'd hoped he would change his mind. He is open to adoption, which is really positive, but I'm frightened that the adoption agencies would turn us away. I can't talk to my family about this because I feel they would judge him and say he is not right for me. I can't bear the thought of not having him in my life, and feel so low about all this. I often wish I had a medical problem that meant I couldn't have children. I don't know how to come to terms with this. Any help would be appreciated.

Anxiety and having babies

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jamthy,it must feel awful to fullfill your dream and cause your significant other to suffer of anxiety. but i believe he needs to come to believe he needs help to lower his anxiety and learn that life normal hapennings are anxious and there will be more anxious moments than happy ones ,but filling and savering the happy ones is much satisfying than living in a notch lower of anxiety than then to live with regrets and end up and the end of senior years alone he can get treatment and he may still have some anxiety but live and experience happpiness with his son/daughter and you can also live happy with your family may God bless you and your future family leave it in his hands don't push it

Anxiety and having babies

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I am 39 and have had suffered Anx + Dep for 12 years . I am still single and childless and take Lithium wat seems forever . No probs meeting girls but each time it gets serious i walk away it seems and then regret it . Cant get close . I love kids but have missed my chance . But why would he adopt rather than have his own ? That seems quite strange !! This disease is horrible and you only truly understand if you have it . You both seem fine people but decide if you want to stay together .

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