Husbands and stripclubs
My husband recently took our 18year old back from college to a strip club. He lied to me about it. I feel disrespected in alot of ways. I'm no prude but I feel like if there was nothing to hide he would have told me. When I confronted him that he lied and I knew they went to a strip club. He was like men don't like to discuss this stuff with women. What kind of response is that?? I'm angry about the lying part not so much the strip club part. However I do have some questions and concerns about men and strip clubs and what they really do there when their significant other is at home. I feel like there is a certain amount of respect and I lose trust in situation like these. What advice or thought does anyone have on the subject?? Appreciate any and all responses.
He has no reason why he shouldn't be able to discuss it with you. If men don't like to discuss this with women, then it sounds like it's something they probably shouldn't be doing. He shouldn't have lied to you. How can a relationship work if you can't trust him to tell you the truth. He should have told you that he wanted to take your son to a strip club, then it might have been okay. Me, personally, I don't think that anyone is in a relationship should be going to strip clubs. Sure, I would like to go see the Chippendales male dancers, but I wouldn't be comfortable If my boyfriend went to a female strip club. So I probably won't see them. It's not appropriate to me. I don't think I could ever trust him to go to a strip club. They are watching the opposite sex dancing provocatively and I don't feel comfortable knowing that my guy is watching some other woman. It makes me feel insecure and I really don't like thinking about it. Have you tried voicing to him why you don't like him going there, or why you don't trust him because of that? Talk to him and let him know how it makes you feel. I hope things get better.
he is being a jerk and you guys need to sit and chat.this might not be the first time he lied about this but everyone has skeletons.Skeletons dont need to be in a marriage so ask him to do this exercise called the truth box.What you do is write down all your secrets from him and he does the same then you listen to his,air yours,and converse.When you are done put them in a old shoebox,tape it and move on.