Dealing with issues
I had a bad experience in a past relationship and it has left me with some issues. these issues not only change how i am but now are affecting my new relationship and i dont know what to do or how to over come these issues. I was cheated on by my long term girlfriend, it went on for awhile behind my back. Its been a year since and now im in a new relationship, its my first relationship since. Ive always been trusting! until now
In my past relationship, i never worried when we wasnt together, thought any thing along the lines of her cheating or got upset when we where both to busy to see each other. in my new relationship, its amazing and so is she. I have noticed these "issues" i have. These issues are: When were not together i worry about what she is doing, i find it hard not to text her and i hate that i cant leave her to enjoy her plans with out me. I get upset over stupid little things and my first thoughts about anything that has stopped us seeing each other is that she doesnt want to be with me. for example if she has made alot of plans one week and i hardly get to see her i start to think that she doesnt want me anymore and my mind just thinks thoughts like that, its as if i cant accept that she might love me and have friends and family in her life too :/ and i think the last main issue is that i over think everything, i find problems were there isnt any and sometimes after a day or something i even realise that i had blown something out of proportion and made it into a problem. I was never like this with my last girlfriend and that upsets me so much, i love my current girlfriend and i know it upsets her when these issues of mine arise and cause problems in our relationship, she tries really hard with me and understand about my past but i wouldnt blame her if one day shes ends if these issues dont get better theres only so much people can take... i dont want us to end! please help...
hey Man,come on,Its Over,that phase is over already so why to spoil today cuz of ashes of yesterday.today you hv got a loving caring gal in your lyf,who loves you,tries to understand you n d best part is you know it all n still have "issues".
i can totally get you,d things which happened earlier with you has left a part of you in total awe! but why killin todays life for those stupid woman & her doings!
give ur gal space and trust her,truet yoir heart,cuz it knows whats right,Stop bothering your brain ,let the heart do its work dude! cuz m sure Love wil find its own way.kip Lovin ..its d best thing world has to offer..do luck !
Ive dealt with this scenario a few times in my younger days, none of my reactions were to be bringing on new cool ways to deal with such matters as this. Finally, i decided that what i had been doing, or thinking, pondering, cogitating, and all the ways which i saw in my mnd that i intended to do to remedy my situation, none was working, nor would it work. So, i completly changed my thinking, my reactions, i no longer focused on any cheating going on anywhere. I got control of my minds thoughts and went against its natural way it go. It was tough for some time but it changed my life and gave me more than i had wanted in the begining.
I am the girl in the other side of this scenario. My guy had a horrible life growing up his past 3 relationships end cause they his things and cheated.on him. I love him with all my heart, but he will never talk to me if he is feeling insecure. he text me and accuse me of things that I didn't do. he is even said that because I miss my dead husband that what he has done for me doesn't matter to me. That's not true. recently he wanted to purchase a home he asked me and my son to move in with him. I started selling my stuff was even willing to sell my truck to help with a Down. Soon as we get that close he dumps me won't even tell me why. Say I have treated him bad for months and months. How can a guy say he loves you so much and that I treated him better than anyone ever has then cuts me off next day? I suggested he see a counselor. I fight to be with him but he never fights to be with me. How can I get him to at least seek help so he can someday be happy?
I read this and know immediately by my own experience, and psych 101 says that the very thing you fear you will actually create, set up the scene, make it reality.