I had been dating this man for the past 2 years and we finally decided to tie the knot. Sex life was normal during dating days. It started to decrease as time passed. We had sex only like twice a month before marriage. We had sex only once during our short Honeymoon of 4D3N. After which we did not had any sex at all. I found out that I was pregnant after 1 month. Now my girl is Turing 18 months and we are in the 3rd year of our marriage. Sadly to sad that the last time we had sex was during my honeymoon. I had tried hinting to him that this is not healthy and probably should seek for some consulting. However, he said he is normal and do not seek any consulting. I am only in my early thirties and he is in his mid thirties. Am I going to live the rest of my life like that? What is wrong? I feel like we are just husband and wife in name.
Sorry to hear about your dilema. It sounds like a common situation to me. I think most people today are empty. We work not to fullfil our dreams or life purpose but to have material things then we become slaves to our jobs because of debt and an ever lasting unconscious need to have material things & so on. We keep trying to fix the "outside" by dressing a certain way, looking a certain way, joining the gym, driving a certain car etc. etc and in the end, we still remain empty because we focus on what is external. Same can be said about marriage. I don't think the problem is you... I mean, I don't think that your husband loves you any less than he did prior to your marriage. I think he is just empty, feels empty...whether he admits it or not. This is not to be mistaken with "depression". Speaking of which, never take a pill for depression, ever! I do not think you should seek consulting. There is a spiritual or consciouness awakening that is happening...(has nothing to do with religion)... I think your husband is at the awakening stage as crazy as that sounds or maybe it is vice versa...maybe you are at the awakening stage... or maybe it is both of you. It is that sense that "something is off". There are documentaries available to watch on youtube. For your situation, I would search WAYNE DYER first. Watch all his stuff and do it with your husband if he is willing. Then search "consciousness awakening", Gregg Braden, Maxwell Igan, Bruce Lipton, Louise Hay, Abraham Hicks. There is sooo much material out there. Watch stuff available on youtube like "Ethos", "Water - The Great Mystery" which are not related to your issues. I just think they help "stir" what is deep inside. Well, good luck to you. Everything is going to work out. It always does. : )