Always confused :(
I have been in love with a guy for 2 years now, we have had our ups and downs and have not been together the whole time he had another short relationship with someone else that didnt work out. I have been currently dating someone for 3 months that I care alot about. There are no issues where the new guy is concerned just the fact that we have two teenage daughters that suffer from depression and anxiety. His daughter is older than mine and is into cutting which my daughter is not, we went to a wedding together and after the weekend was over I found that his daughter had encouraged my daughter to cut herself, which my daughter did. There has been no more issues with regards to this problem as my daughter is in therapy and realized that the one time cutting was not something she ever wanted to do again. I figured having two girls that were going through the same thing would be better for them as they would have each other to lean on and support each other. It seems like my daughter is more depressed when she is around his daughter. I have told him I cannot see him anymore due to this fact. He really is an amazing guy it just seems like he came along at the wrong time (as usual for me it seems). He is a single dad that has her all the time, as well as I have mine all the time too. They do not go to see their respective "other" parent. The man that I have been in love with for 2 years has come back on the scene professing his undying love and things can work out for us and he wants to be with me forever. I am so confused and torn. I don't know whether to give new guy a chance and work on supporting our daughters together through love and therapy or give my ex another chance to prove that we can be together again.
I personally think you shouldn't get back with your ex, it didn't work out the first time, there's only a small chance it will the next time. If he loved you I don't think he would let you go in the first place. I think give the new guy a chance, it's sad your daughter is more sad but I think you need to help his daughter so she has more positive energy, which will be better for your daughter. Maybe find out what's bothering her and therapy is good, maybe even sports! Through thick and thin! You don't want to brake up with him when all you needed was some help!