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Relationship advice I'd like to start off by giving a little bit of a background here. I am a housekeeper in a work camp. We all work 12+ hours a day for a number of weeks straight. I ran into, literally it was one of those chance encounter type of things, this man. I didn't mean to catch him by surprise but I did. The next day I went to clean his room and I found a note. It is not uncommon for me to find notes. So as I always do I replied and from there it continued for a few days. He left his cell number for me. I didn't take it at first. I wasn't about to go get myself in some bad situation, especially not where I work. Then I left a note back and I said I don't mind continuing the conversations as long as it is kept appropriate. And it was appropriate. A few weeks into the conversations he asked how old I am. I am 21. and that kind of put him off. He then told me he thought I was in my mid twenties. and that I am mature for my age. Which is a comment I receive frequently. I found out a time later that he is 37. but that didn't stop the conversation there. He did turn into a good friend although it was all text and phone based as is we live in different states. We talked every day for nearly 4 months when it started to turn into something more. There was no denying how well we get along. the conversation is never forced. There was never any tension as I have found there usually is based upon past relationships. He would tell me little things about a possible future. He wanted me to come visit him and his 3 children. and we did meet up a couple of times in person. He would hold my hand as he drove. and yes there were some kisses exchanged. But when I recently asked him about a possible future he shut me out. He had said that we are in completely different places in our lives. And yes I do agree with him on that. But I don't see how it couldn't work. Especially considering some of the role models I have in my life.. My mom is 5 years older than my dad. My grandpa married a woman the same age as his daughter, my mom. There is a 20 year gap between them. So after he told me that we are in different places in our lives I put a stop to the friendship. But a part of me feels as though I should not have. I still have strong feelings for him. And now I am not sure what to do. Or how to react. I would greatly appreciate and or all advice, comments, or opinions. Thank you

Age difference ok?

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I think he was maybe just a taste of what love is like, age doesn't have to matter but sometimes it can be better to be with someone a bit more in your age range and this can depend on mind as well. I know I'm not the best person to help since I'm only 15 but I saw that this had no responses so I thought I'd try. Hope this helps a bit ^^

Age difference ok?

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Hey,
I think the age difference does play a big role in the way you think, in the way you live your everyday life, the friends you have. So having a difference in age will affect you later on - though not initially. May be you guys might have some chemistry to keep it going. I really dont know how the realty is going to be. Good luck.

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