What can I do to get him back?
Ok so I was with this guy for 8 1/2 months. We didn't have any problems at all during the relationship. Then he started getting all distant and not really wanting to see me very much. 3 months ago, he said we should take a "break." I didn't want to, but there wasn't any changing his mind I guess. About a week later he moved an hour and a half away because of some complications here. He had found out about it only a few days before he had to leave. I visited him the day he left for about an hour or so and we talked just like normal. We texted for a few days after that, then he stopped talking. Anyways, he got a new girlfriend there 2 weeks later. He texted me once during that time with the new girlfriend saying that he missed me. Usually he wouldn't really talk during that time. Didn't hear from him until New Year I think it was. I texted him and we talked like before for about 2 days. Then he stopped talking to me again. 2 weeks ago he facetimed me saying he broke up with the other girl after 3 weeks of being together and that he misses me. He was asking if I'm single and when I said yes he said that he is too and kind of paused for a little bit. So I'm like "why do you ask?" and he's like "oh just making small talk." He said that he's told everyone over there about me and all that. Don't know what he said, but I don't see why he would feel the need to tell me that. Anyways supposedly he's moving back here, and it was supposed to be in 2 weeks. He wasn't exactly sure when he's supposed to come back though. During that conversation he was all like "I miss hanging out with you all the time, we need to hang out like that again." Basically he brought up almost everything we did together saying we need to do that again. Then he started bringing up every inside joke we had in a total of about 2 minutes. So we talked about all that for about an hour and when I said I had to go because I needed sleep, he said he didn't want me to go and blah, but then he's like "ok I don't want you to be tired." Basically I haven't heard from him since then. I tried to text him 2 weeks ago a few days after our facetime conversation and he didn't respond. Haven't tried to contact him since. I don't want to get false hope because there's a chance he could have been lying about moving back. I really miss him and I really want him back, but I don't know what to do. Do you have any ideas about what to do?
Hey punk princess, so it seems like this guy has feelings for you but is kind of unclear about his feelings. and like some men they cant explain their feelings which causes them to feel scared. he could possibly be scared to admit that he likes you or hes just acting his age where he wants to have his fun and eat his cake too. but you should know that we are young and vibrant and need to be out there living it up. but if you really want that one guy who you cant stop thinking about, what I would recommended is no texting no calling, no anything till he makes his moves. don't be clingy be cautious but not so that hey knows why you are because believe it or not he maybe playing with your feelings and his because he might like someone else. its quite hard to explain but he is definitely not sure and you should be thinking about it just let everything flow because to actually make sure that he truly likes you he must make that first step not you, it takes two to work out a relationship and you need to move on till hes ready if your willing to.
Thank you so much for responding!
the advice you gave is really good. I have been waiting for him to contact me for a while. The whole time we've been apart, i've only tried to contact him a few times. I havent been trying desperately to get a hold of him; just basically letting him do his own thing. One detail i left out was that when we most recently talked, he had told me to text him more. He said to not take it personally if he doesnt respond because he's "very busy."
Thanks again for the advice! It's very helpful!