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I am a 49 year old widow, who is really overweight but not bad to look at. I always get told you have such a beautiful face. I live with my brother and my Mom. My brother has a friend, who would come over to visit. I have known him for a few years now and was always just casual. Around Christmas he started coming over to spend time with me instead of my brother. We have a lot of the same interests and get along really well. My family and friends started asking what is going on? I told them they are crazy, he is 10 years younger than me and not a bad looking guy. I am attracted to him and my oldest daughter who is 24 says I see him differently than everyone else and he is not as attractive to others as I think that he is. He sits on the arm of the recliner If I am sitting there to talk to me. I have a huge bedroom with lots of seating and at times people end up sitting in here to visit. He has come in and if I am sitting on my bed, he has laid on the bed next to me. I will sit in the chair in my room on the computer he pulls his chair over next to it and leans over so we are touching sides to look. He is always staring deep into my eyes as he talks and does not look away if I stare back. I will say he is a starer when he talks to others also, He has a son who is 16 and has told me repeatedly that he does not want a relationship till his son is raised. He has had a few bad relationships and says that is why. He tells me about his family and how good they are and has been hinting about me meeting his mom. I think that he is attracted to me at times, but then I convince myself that I am crazy. There is so much about us that is alike and he points it out all the time. He comes over 3 to 4 times a week and stays anywhere from 4 to 8 hours at a time. Spends holidays here. His parents are in Florida for the winter and I tell myself he gets lonely. He has a brother and spends Saturdays with his son. Sometimes they come over here. My 5 year old nephew told him I need to date a cowboy and he said he needed to get a big truck was not going to ride a horse. I have been helping him to find a job, he got laid off in December. I just think maybe because I am being nice to him.He knows that my cell phone contract is up this month and wants to put me on his plan, but it will save him money too in the long run. He has all the qualities that I find attractive in a man, but he has been my brothers friend for over 10 years. He is a close friend to 2 of my brothers. I could never make a move and make things awkward. He has made me feel alive again and I started caring about myself again. I was content to think I would live on this farm with my mom and brother and that would be my life. I have had others show interest since my husband died 9 years ago, but have never even been attracted to them. This has awakened something in me that I thought had died. I have started a diet, started getting back to my old self. I love being around him, but I feel myself getting more and more emotionally vested in it and I am scared. I want to just keep felling like I do. I would wait for two years I think that he is worth it. Just wanting to know if I am thinking the right way. Any opinions? Thank you very much for reading this.

Is he really interested

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Dear LOULOU3563, I read your whole story. It does look like the man is interested in you. But he has made it clear he doesnt want a relationship. Maybe he is just looking for a good friend..someone to share with. At this moment think of him only as a good friend. Its a wonderful thing that he has had a positive effect on you and you have started taking care of yourself. I am sure you feel wonderful inside..with a more beautiful you on the inside and outside...love does these wonderful things to you. But you will have to keep control on your feelings...give him some time. I think God has sent him to rejunevate you..cherish this friendship. Dont expect anything at the moment. Keep thankin g God for what you have and what he has given you. Keep smiling and be happy. God bless you.

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Swan thank you so much. God does work in wonderful ways. I needed to hear everything that you said this morning. I am going to keep on the path that I am on and I know that it will all sort out in the end. I am just so grateful that God is in control and knows my wants and needs so much more than I do. Thank you again and God Bless:)

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