So, I am dating a married man. I met him at work in October when we both started. He is my manager and a respectable man in the company. He, unfortunately, has a wife and 2 kids! His last child was born a week before Thanksgiving. (At that time we weren't speaking on an intimate level). Right after Thanksgiving, we started flirting a lot at work. Passing notes, locking eyes, smiling...the whole 9 yards. We both knew we were playing with fire. One day he asked me to go out for a drink after work. I agreed and from there it was all rainbows and butterflies. We chatted for hours after work at the bar. At the end of the night, we made out pretty passionately. When we locked lips, he made me feel like no other man had. It was almost like love at first kiss! From that night on we constantly texted, talked, and flirted more and more. It got to the point where we were seeing each other after work, before work, and even on his days off. We had this chemistry that made us both feel so alive. I've never had anything like it. Our romance felt like something out of a movie. He wrote me songs, poems, sends me flowers, takes me out on dates...etc. On 12/12/12 we made ourselves official. We were/are in fact a couple. One day he sat me down and told me that he had fallen completely in love with me and wants to be with me. That he had no idea what love was until I came along. He told me he is planning on leaving his wife in a couple months and living on his own. He said that he was planning on leaving for a while before I entered the picture. He also told me that his 2nd child wasn't planned, and that's what he's staying now for. His wife knows he doesn't love her anymore and is heartbroken. She's also found songs he's written to me and texts between us. He even got his mother involved and his mother is telling him to leave his wife! I feel like a horrible person, but at the same time I am so happy with him. He told me to wait until he sorts everything out in a couple months, but I'm not sure if I should. What should I do? HELP !!!
Wow, that's some story you have there and it sounds pretty complicated too. You know it may be rainbows and butterflies on your side but if you allow me to gently point out this: have you ever considered maybe what you did was wrong? I mean flirting with a married man who just had a child? Even though he may not "love" his wife they could've sorted things out or maybe they were going through a rough time. But instead of sortin things out its possible you gave him a safe place to go, it's very tempting to most men just to leave there problems and go to the next Comfy spot. But what they don't realise is how much they hurt the people they leave behind, those two children will grow up with out a father, and the only knowledge of him they'll have is a man who lost his love for his wife and ran off with a workmate, leaving behind a broken family. Marriage is a bond that's not ment to be broken, it's a vow said between two people who want to spend there lives together it's not something to be taken lightly and it's definatley not something a single woman should help destroy a family even of the husband does not love his wife. Now I know that sound harsh and can even hurt your feelings but what if a few years down the track when you two start you lives together and maybe have kids, he falls for another women an leave you a single mum to fo fend for yourself. How would you feel I that happened? It would be devastating for any woman. I just hope you Realise you've helped destroy a family that if they tried could've fixed their problems and lives happily from then on, but the husband being selfish and lustful will leave his wife an family just to be with someone he flirted to much with. Be careful what you think Is true love because 90% of the time we all are wrong. Just take time to consider this I mean no offence to you, just offering the simple truth.