Don't know where to turn
Hi This is a first for me, many of my friends are telling me to turn my back on him and go another way. My past in a nutshell. I always thought I was going to marry high school sweetheart. I became pregnant and lost my baby at a young age. I went onto date other guy only to make them last for a few days or weeks. Nothing serious. Then I met the guy who changed that. He wanted to marry me but....in the long run he cheated on me and we never got married. I went back to dating guys who were abusive, very emotions, and have been very hard and difficulty. Last year, I meet this guy in March. I saw some concerns in the beginning he was still talking to his ex and involved me his for her were there. I backed away. I went to his concert, he is in a band in May. And I found out he was not something I wanted to be exposed or around. He was flirting with her, kissing her, but....he was trying to get to know me. It wasn't going to work. He still continued to text or call everyday. I knew in my heart I could not have a relationship with him but only a desired a friendship. However, he continued to want to keep in contact me. However, by mid June I was done. I sent him this long drawn out email and told him to leave me alone. He did.....till November. He texted me. I texted back and started back getting to know me, than he kissed me on January 1st. However, immediately he said I am afraid "I will hurt you, me the bad boy and you the good girl. I was turned off but we started seeing each other, he texted every day, saw each other every day and spending a lot of time together. And then he dropped the word Intimacy and that was the farthest from my mind. I know guys love sex but it was too early and told him. I left for a week and barely talked and then we tried again. He never texted anymore, but when I did he wanted to see me and this time he wanted to have sex with me. We started but I stopped. I was scared. Than the following week he said we could be friends with support. I was hurt. He sent a text and said sorry. 9 days, on Monday this past week, I texted and said Just saying hello, he said hello back but did not send back a text. What would this all mean? I know he really like him but find it difficult to talk to him.
Honestly In my opinion you should just be friends with him and make it clear that you just want to be friends. And if he keeps playing with your emotions you just stop talking to him before you get really hurt .