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Do I take another chance with her?

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Relationship advice Hello, I have a small problem, I'm in live with my best friend. I know your thinking, oh god not another but please here me out. I've known this girl over 4 years now, she wrote to me everyday while I was away on training for the army, she has helped me at my worst and was right next to me through all my greatest memories. We do know each other like the back of our hands of course. Just the perfect person and always enjoyed there time and company. 2 years into the friendship she just quit talking to me one day and didn't talk to her for another two months but finally got ahold of her one day and she just said it was family issues and being the nice guy I am I understood and continued to be here friend cause at this time there was nothing going on at this point in time but like I said we continued our friendship and it was just like before she quit talking to me. She did meet a guy a month or so later and just being a guy I knew he wasn't any good and 6 month pass by and I'm on the phone with her everyday cause he did this or he did that and she cried at least twice a day on the phone. Being the caring friend I am, one day I got tired of it and drove over 50 miles to her house, "yes she does live that far away and I would drive there everyday" and I came to comfort her the bf showed up and threw his little fit, I kinda snapped cause I was tired of him. Spoke my mind, no fight but they did continue there relationship. I was back two days later to comfort her again, she said to me. You're the only real man in my life, that I can trust, that truly knows me and promise you will never leave me alone...I said, I can't imagine my life without you in it. Just kinda looked at each other and that small moment was the best thing I've ever experienced cause i knew I loved her and I knew she loved me...feeling I've never felt before and will never forget....feelings I can't even explain and we just said it at the same time "I love you" no kiss cause I'm a man of respect and she had a bf, not gonna Fo it. But she would never break up with him and finally it happened...she called and said she was gonna stay with him cause he was the one who was her "first" and she loved his family and can't stand to hurt someone but I didn't hear from her for over 6 moths and in the past two months we have been small talkin cause she did leave him cause she caught him cheating on her, go figure. But tonight a few hours ago she said she still has those feelings for me, nothing ever changed and she has thought bout me everyday, she still loved me...this girl is the only person I have ever truly loved and trusted. I would do anything for her still and of course the feelings I had for her never left, they don't just fade away...I like to forgive and forget cause it happened in the past, forget it....but I'm scared I'm gonna end up hurt again...I'm ready to really try this and I believe she is just scared something bad will happen...i dont ever want to lose this girl again...she means the world and everything to me.... this is why I need help....i dont wanna be played and end heartbroken again...Thanks for your time

Do I take another chance with her?

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Hi,
I reallly appreciate what you are doing as a friend. I can really feel your emotions in what you have written. Yes you both know you like each other. But i do not want you to get hurt again. I dont think so she is also doing it on purpose. But dont you think you should pour out your feelings to her, so she really understands how deep your feelings for her are. Just tell her everything. If she also feels the same way she will surely let it out. She is not going to mislead you. I wish you all the luck.

Do I take another chance with her?

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Thank you for your time, thoughts and advise. I do appreciate it. I did exactly what you said and I just layed everything out there, told her my feelings and thoughts and now I'm just waiting to hear back from her. Thank you again

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