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His addiction to sex and pornography is affecting us as a couple

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S-e-x advice My husband and I have been married almost a year and the whole marriage I have discovered he is addicted to sex, in a bad way. I thought at first it was just the "honeymoon" stage, but it's now to the point, it's "ALWAYS" needed in his eyes. It started last July when I discovered his "flirting" with girl friends. I brushed it off because he said it was a joke. Then I learned he had access to online sex dating sites and was using them on a regular base. He would get their numbers and "sext" all the time, then have sex with me that night. I also discovered he watched porn all the time. There were times when he watched porn on his phone while having sex with me. I kept this to myself and finally in December I busted out everything I knew. I was tired of feeling "used". I basically said I wanted a divorce. My husband does not want me to leave, and he ended all access to sex dating sites, deleted all numbers of the girls he talked to sexually and so on. He has messed up once with a sexual conversation with a friend of mine, who told me. Again, I tried to leave but he insisted he would get help and we would go to counseling. The "sexting" has stopped, but the porn hasn't. He lies about it too. He makes videos of us, and says when he masturbates, he uses them, but I have caught him many times with nude pictures of models and watching porn on his phone. He has a serious addiction. It's like he wants to stop, or say he wants to stop for me, but he can't convince himself to stop. He doesn't want to stop. I am beyond over feeling like I am not good enough for him. I feel unsexy, and turned off by him because the image I have of him is a pervert. I don't know if I am what is on his mind while we have sex or if it's the pornography he watched 20 minutes prior or the picture he stared at for 15 mins. I can't get it through to him on how I feel. Counseling is not happening as fast as it needs too, (he's in the Army), but I don't know how much more I can take of this before I get to the point I don't want him to touch me. I have always been attracted to him, that has never been a problem, but lately my "bad image" of him is pushing me away from him. And sometimes, not often, he will not be "in the mood" when I am, and I am fine with it. I don't force him, I just don't worry about it. But him, if I ever am not in the mood (im usually just tired), he's basically like "screw you, I am getting off." and goes to the bathroom and masturbates. It's frustrating. I can understand certain times to masturbate, but he has this thrive that he has to get off. And if I turned him away everyday, he would masturbate or my big fear is find it elsewhere (even though he says it won't happen). I just don't know how to deal with this. I am in over my head. Can someone help?

His addiction to sex and pornography is affecting us as a couple

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I can see where you feel Insecure. To me, a man watching porn is natural. When it starts to go further that (sexting, etc) then it's to much. I personally think he should be allowed to watch porn, but he needs to learn what excess is- and those other women.. A big NO.
Hope you guys can pull it together- best of luck.

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