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Hi, thanks for taking the time to read this...I am having a really hard time getting over a past relationship and I just can't understand why this is still on my mind. It has been a year since we broke up and at first it was really devastating for me. Eventually we became friends again and were on great terms for a long time and I had come to feel like we were really good friends and nothing else. He even started dating someone that I knew and I was o.k. with it. We all went out together and it wasn't akward, I have dated other people since as well. Then a few months ago, his new relationship ended and we went out together one night and a lot of old feelings came back between us. We started casually dating again for about a month before he found out that his previous girlfriend was pregnant by him. This started all kinds of problems between all three of us because of all the emotions and confusion and jealousy and it just became a really akward situation for me because I realized that I still had a lot of feelings for him. I feel like I am in love and I have never told him that because I know now that it is not what he wants. I kind of took myself out of the picture for the sake of letting them deal with the situation and they ended up back together shortly after. I still have contact with him, but this whole situation has caused his girlfriend and I to have issues and she doesn't want to be friends anymore and probably doesn't like him talking to me. I feel like more than anything I have lost one of my best friends. I feel like I am still in love with him and I just can't move on. I still think about him every day almost and it has been a few months already. It is effecting me emotionally and effecting my ability to have new relationships. I am confused by how I was over him emotionally before and we had such a great friendship and now feel like I can't do that, like I will always want more. Please if anyone can relate to this, I would love to hear your opinion. Thanks!

Getting over it

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Your story is really painful.No one can feel the pain in which you are going through but if you believe in god then leave everything in gods hand. Try to cut ur contants with him(Dont talk to him for long duration even if it pains) but i will take time to come over of this. or you should look for a relation that will help you to come over this. I can feel the pain through which ur going but u cant help it. Reply whatever ur position is.

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this sounds horrible! poor you! if i was you i would find a new social group to mix with, people who have no idea about it all, that helps me deal with things, because they wont feel sympathy towards you, and you will meet new people :) say yes to everyone who invites you out- its a great time of year to do this! just put them and this situation into a 'dont open' box in your head create new places and new things to do and just believe it yourself that this is just a bad couple of months in a whole world of fun ones to be had! remember this- he is just a boy, this is only 2007 and you still have many years left and many more boys to love! i know it must hurt but just leave them to it! the pain wont go away but it will get easier :)

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