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In desperate need of help!!

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years. We moved in together 4 months into a relationship we moved in with one another and everything was great until about 4 months later things started to dwindle. He is 4 years younger than me and never really had the freedom to party and what not. Well I'm young my self and partying is great but It had gotten to the point where it was ruining our relationship. I moved away from my family and friends to be with him left my crappy car packed up and took a leap of faith. So granted he had his friends that he would party and hang out with until early until the a.m. I barely knew anyone besides from a couple of people from work. To make a long story short we ended up arguing over him not spending time with me and over financial problems we lived at work our paychecks went to bills mostly and what little left over we had I would spend on things for the home or for us, he would spend his money on things for his truck beer and gas to go hang out with his friend some of which were unemployed and he would treat to beers and meals. I was very upset because I felt like he wasn't even considering our relationship only his needs. During one of our arguments it became physical which resulted into us both moving back with our parents. A month later I found out I was 4 months pregnant and I had placenta previa which made my pregnancy high risk. Naturally he wanted me to move in with him to his sisters and provided me with a bus ticket to go across country we were both unemployed. Even though my whole family was against us being together I decided to go but before I did I ended up losing balance in the shower causing injury to myself and not my child so the ideal of riding on a bus for days was very unappealing to me in my situation. I was then supposed to fly with the help of some family members but then was told I shouldn't fly in my condition. So the plan was to wait until my son was born then fly but at this time he was at his parents in hawaii which is quite costly. I ended up having my son and he was born sleeping this January it was very hard for me it still is and his whole family believes that I fabricated the whole story and I don't want to be out there with him but I do. Its just hard because now that my son has passed my family really finds ways to make sure I don't go out there. So today I was supposed to fly out there and I ended up missing my flight because my mother and I had a big blown out of portion argument about me leaving to be with him. But now he told me that if I don't make it out there by tomorrow I can forget about coming out there because he is tired of waiting on me. The plan is to move out there to get married and he due to join the army any day now but in order for the Army acknowledge our marriage we must be married 30 days prior to him leaving. Now he is being a complete jerk like I'm so liar I'm just overwhelmed and wondering if he really loved me why would he be so willing to let things go just so easily.

In desperate need of help!!

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I think your family is just trying to look out for you and not want you to go through the misery again. I don't think you should be with this guy, he won't change. Now is your time to start your life over and better, he is going into the army soon. & he expects you to wait for him. But he can't even wait for you to get down there. It's up to you, but I would get a job, live at my parents until I'm able to live on my own. & have a life.

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