I am 23 years old, and I am very awkward and never really been on a date. I've been in two long term relationships and there was not dating time involved we just sort of ended up together, so dating is scary for me. While I was at work I was starting to flirt with this guy who I liked very much, and he flirted back with me. We started off slow I've been working there for about 9 months now and it was always light talking, then one night he asked me to hang out. The next day I got his phone number and we texted all night he replied quickly and seemed interested in talking with me. So we talked about hanging out on our day off but he never said anything to me again so I figured it was just one of those things people do with saying let's hang out and than they never do, so I went out with some friends to disneyland. Around 3 in the afternoon I get a text from him asking me what I was doing, I told him I was out but might be home soon, he just told me to have fun and contact him when I can. I got home and sent him a message to which he never replied I brushed it off, and the next morning he sent me another message asking if I was free. I told him I have work but I got out at 11, he said he'd still be free so to message him. I asked him if he wanted to get something to eat with me and he said he was "So down" and "I get paid tonight so wherever you wanna go is cool" I was excited to say the least, but we didn't make any concrete plans beyond that. I took clothes to change into after work and I texted him on my lunch thinking of where I was suppose to meet up with him. He didn't really text back much after that, I again brushed it off but was worried about what we were going to do, and though he would blow me off but I texted him when I got work. To my surprise he told me he was on his way, he actually came to work to pick me up, the place we work at is 24 hours and he usually works over night, so people we know would have seen us I supposed it didn't matter. We drove to Denny's as it was the only place open and he opened the door for me, while we waited on food he took off to the claw machine game and won me a prize, we talked and laughed and I think we were both a little nervous as we weren't able to really eat. We finished eating and he said he wanted to drink, I recommend another TGIFriday's since they were open late and sold alcohol. I don't drink so he offered to share a dessert with me. We talked awkwardly as we both are but we in my opinion really hit it off. It was almost 2 in the morning when we left the restaurant and he asked me what I wanted to do, not knowing what to say we got into the car and he drove around we were just star gazing and driving around, he had a CD that we both liked, honestly it was crazy how much we had in common and he popped it in and we drove singing loudly, he would say things like next time we could do this or for sure I should show you this, he mentioned wanting to be a pilot and said he only needed a few more hours "Then I can take you up there too" is what he said. While in the darkness of the roads he said he should've planned it better everything is better with planning, like for one he didn't even have a picnic basket next time he would plan better. I was beyond happy and I thought we were really hitting it off, he started to smoke weed, which I don't do but he told me he does so often for pain since he injured his back, I told him I don't mind if did but it seemed it was something he really liked to do. We called it a night around 3 in the morning, he dropped me off and walked me to my car, but I told him I was going to run into the bathroom he just kind of stood there, I asked him if he was going to wait for me to come back or was he taking off. "oh no I'm leaving" he said, he gave me a hug and I ran inside because I really had to pee, some of our co workers saw us saying bye in the parking lot and started to tease me a little, I told them in truth, I don't even know if it was a date date or he was just being nice, because he has a reputation at work for being the nicest guy there. I got home and sent him a message saying I had fun and thanks for everything, he replied "
and thank you it was fun" I told him to message me when ever he wanted and good night sweet dreams. his text was the same. I was excited the next day at seeing him back at work, but it seemed odd. He hugged me quickly and walked off, then I felt he was trying to avoid me like we walked down the same hall way and he bee lined out a side door. I don't understand how the same goofy guy who would look back at me and always walk around with me suddenly just bolted. I sent him a message and he replied but they were very slow replies like hour long wait time, and he didn't really seem he wanted to talk, I told him if he's too busy with work I'll leave him be, he said "oh no it's just I don't hear my phone ringing" I gave up after that and just didn't bother replying and do I didn't talk to him again, I didn't see him at work the next day, he was in another part of the store. I went home and last night I saw him in the parking lot he walked up slowly to me gave me a hug he didn't seem as lively as he usually does, we talked for a short minute then said good night. I'm going to see him tonight and I'm still really interested in going out with him again, I was thinking of saying something along the lines of "happy Friday!I had a lot of fun last time, so if you want to hang out again hit me up" or maybe something like "Hey did you wanna go see that one movie with me?" I don't know if I should though, I've never really dated some one and I know I'm guilty of getting overly excited, but I really thought we were going some where with this, should I just forget it or should I try? Sorry for my rambling, I just really like him.
yes he has some sort of management position, it's not a high one one but is one none the less. But he's the one who picked me up from work, so I figured it wasn't a big deal, also it's not against the rules to date anyone especially since we work in different areas at different times. I leave when he comes in.
okay first things first. Make sure it is okay to date a coworker. This sounds like he may be concerned about his job. I was in your exact situation less than a year ago. I am sad to say I too am seeking advice on here as we speak. One thing I can tell you from my personal experience is be careful with your heart. If you find yourself catching feelings for this guy, and he continues to be allusive with you. I strongly advice not to continue with this guy, or you could end up like me. Its easy to fall in love, but hard to move on from it. Dealing with a stuborn heart is a battle. Dont get into deep unless you are sure its right! Hope this helps best of luck.