I am currently a college student and I used to have a boyfriend (Dude). I met this other guy(Man) at a shoe store back in May and we just hit if off. I cannot explain how well we got along right on the spot, it was just something special. So Man and I talk a lot I buy shoes and then I leave. We start talking in November after running into each other again, by this time he also has a girlfriend(Lady) and I was with Dude at the time. so we just left it there.. until we hang out one day and ended up making out in my car. We were trying to see if it would make it easier to be friends.. you know how its just awkward to kiss certain people? well that was DEFINITELY not the case with him. It did the exact opposite, for both of us. So we kept it to ourselves and I ended up breaking up with Dude because he cheated and lied to me --among many other things I did not see until later-- (I know, I'm a hypocrite I feel awful about it). Man and I have seen each other a couple times since and talked a good bit. He just makes me want to be a better person and the connection we have is unreal.. everytime we've ended up kissing.. and the last time I saw him we almost had sex. He and I had went to lunch together because he was leaving town to move in with Lady, so it was kinda like the final goodbye sort of scenario. We went to his apartment afterwards and the whole day was wonderful and then bam. I just don't understand how he can say he loves her (i can tell he really cares about her) and then do that with me? I'm aware it's awful and you have every right to call me a slut and a homewrecker, but I can't shake the feeling he's supposed to be in my life. I can give you more details about our friendship if you need them to evaluate the situation more. Please just give me your thoughts on this, please. I'm dying. My head can't process this.
"Everything is fair in love and war". Now that makes sense here! I hate to break it to you but from this angle, Man seems to be taking advantage of you. He's happily committed, is not willing to leave lady and still is having close liasons with you, that reflects his lack of character. You probably started considering him because of the issues you had with dude, you wanted a way out. At the end of the day its a hard to accept fact that if this guy Man actually had feelings for you he would have left Lady. And now that he's moving with her, its time for you to move on and stop thinking he's the only one who makes you feel comfortable. I won't call you a hypocrite, everyone has reasons behind their behavior but I will say that you've been naive. Man, is probably just another sweet talker who has managed to lure you into his trap of words and successfully manipulated you. You need to start making effort to find new people, socialize, take time to figure yourself out before you jump into another relationship. I'm sorry you must be very upset but what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!