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One month before I get home from 18 month overseas she needs space

Posted by
BNKENZ
on May 2 2013 at 06:47
Member since: 02 May 2013
Relationship advice Hello, I'm a 29M living in Asia while dating a 28F living in the US. About six months into my relationship with her, my company asked if I was willing to move to Asia for a year. After thinking about it, I decided to go resulting in my relationship becoming long distance. Over the course of the year, we chatted every day and meet for vacations and what not. It was tough but it was working. After seven months into the tour, my company asked me to stay for another year. This was the hard apart because my job was going great but I missed my girl. I end up extending another year. That resulted in us breaking up a month later. A month after that, I was back in the US for a vacation and we ended up working it out and I informed my company that I need to return to the US. We agreed that I would finish up 6 more months and they would release me from my contract. About two months out from leaving Asia, my girl came out to visit me. It went ok. We fought but had an ok time. Three weeks later, she told me that she need space, we have grown apart and does not want to talk every day. And when I return she would like to take it slow. This came as a shock to me because less than a month from being home and back with her. We have not talked since on facetime but she texts me every four or five days saying hi. I love this girl and would like to marry her one day. But, I’m totally confused now? Any advice? I’m assuming she might another guy…maybe…not sure. Let me know what you think?
One month before I get home from 18 month overseas she needs space
Reply from
BITTERBLUE91
on May 2 2013 at 12:02
Member since: 02 May 2013
Hello, from what you have said I don’t think it would be another man as she has seemed to really try to make it work and that can’t be for nothing, if she was seeing another man I doubt it would be anything emotionally but can understand that it can be harder for women in long distance relationship as we can need that close human contact more, for a comfort thing. If she wasn’t interested in continuing a relationship is she the type to be straight out and honest? I believe she wouldn’t ask to continue slow, if she didn’t want to be with you at all, it can be hard to maintain a steady and strong relationship when apart, starting slow may be what you need to strengthen those foundations back up again. I hope this has helped somewhat, I noticed nobody had commented yet and thought I’d help.
One month before I get home from 18 month overseas she needs space
Reply from
BNKENZ
on May 3 2013 at 01:57
Member since: 02 May 2013
Thank you for your responds. I would think if she didn't want to be in the relationship she would tell me. I agree with taking it slow when I get back because there would be a lot of pressure and etc. So, you are probably right. Thanks, again.
One month before I get home from 18 month overseas she needs space
Reply from
BNKENZ
on May 3 2013 at 02:18
Member since: 02 May 2013
Oh, one more question, she is now texting me every tuesday....hi, how are you. (simple). I have texted her on Fridays but I dont want this to get routine. I was thinking about breaking the routine waiting longer to text her? What do you think?

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