26 year old "should" be single mom? help me

Hi I'm 26 have never lived alone, I have 2 and a half year old and live with the father. We are together, but he feels like if he works a job and pays the bills, than that's enough support that our family needs. I clean the house, I take care of our son, I cook and do his laundry, I do basically everything under the sun for him. I would like to get a job to help support my self and the family but I'm not aloud to work and if I am its only at the places he allows. I have no support from him on anything. He hardly ever does anything to help me with our son and when he does he treats me like I'm abusing my little boy, says awful things to my son about me, like "mommy's mean she doesnt love me"and when I'm disciplining my son he always talks down to me and doesn't show or give me support that I need. He's threatened me before with things if I try to leave and I know he'd try, I don't want the law or courts involved with anything. What can I do to help myself in my situation. I love the "man" but he's not ever gonna change or step up and be who I need him to be. Ive said and done everything possible that my heart and soul could do to help change things. Im tired of it and im wore out and dont have the energy to do it all. He has come to annoy me in almost every action. Please help I'm open to all and any advice.

You need to leave this man. It's that simple, do what's best for you and your kid

Once a relationship gets like this it is gonna be hard to constantly ignore all the things that bug you about him you might be able to ignore them for a while bug they will be back to bug u he sounds like a right jerk I think you would be better off supporting yourself and giving ur lovely little boy the best life u can with a great role model kids look at their perants as the best do u want your son thinking that this is the way he should act ?