Is he gay, move on?
•About 4 1/2 years ago I had started dating this man 17 yrs older than I. He seemed mature, funny, and calm. We met on line and dated for about 3 months gleefully. I told him I would not Marry unless I lived with the person first since my marriage had been bad and I felt you don't know the person till you live with them. So, he agreed to if we did things right..( Go to church, no sexual , yada, yada ). So I move in thinking he's honest. 3 months later were going to a Bible class and I'm doing our study on line while he's playing Tennis. I check out his emails since there open. I find out he's been emailing exes and flirting. He's been on dating websites, He's looked at porn and I found Gay porn too. I confront him and he says he's not gay and he does not know how they got there. He reads Gay politic articles so I thought he's gay. He says he will not do this any more. So, here it is the 5Th year and we are in counsel ling. He has made excuses like I would have married you by now if you did not have kids , even though they are grown and do not live with us. He said I don't know if the empathy I have for you for your past is real love, I don't like the dog ( a small dachshund ). He Say's he can't see his life with out me and He's fortunate to have me.
I have thought he was Gay for many reasons. He does not like to french kiss, says it's messy. He likes chick flicks, his favorite singers are Whitney Houston, bey once. No, He's not black. He talks with his hands, he's very picky, he's been single since his first divorce in 1995. He's always made excuses not to settle down with past girlfriends. He sits down to pee, He has a flower hanging over his fire place. He seemed to want life to stay like a roomate situation but with benefits. He has yet to propose. He will not be verbally intimate with me. He is very secretive and guarded. He dismisses things I ask or talk about. He laughs when I say anything sexual. He will not fix broken things like the air conditioner, his old car, etc...
•Thank you, Mary
Just because he does more feminine things, does not automatically make him gay. But I won't get into that. Bottom line is, if you're not happy with the way things are going, then leave it. You need to make yourself happy; put yourself first for once