Is he stringing me along or does he still care? Please help!!
So me and my ex of 3 years broke up over two months ago, he ended with me after I didn't pay him much attention, It hurt me though when I realised 3 weeks after breaking up he was dating a 17 year old, hes 23 i'm 21. I was heartbroken. he told me they were just friends and he wanted to keep contact with me as friends. I stupidly agreed, then a mutual friend told me he saw them kissing. Although I was so upset, I knew i couldnt keep it like how it was, so i blocked him on facebook and deleted his number. I got family members and close friends to remove him too so i wouldnt know what he was up to, as the weeks went on with help from my friends, i was getting over him, I was happy out. It was last week, the end of our exams i went out, I began to date this new guy who i didn't fancy too much, but he was a nice guy, i met him in the pub, my friends told me they saw my ex out, so we all agreed to get a taxi to the nightclub, I was still (fairly drunk) enjoying my night out, smiling and dancing, but as soon as i went downstairs i bumped into my ex. I smiled at him and asked him how he was and he seemed happy to see me too! I then followed the girls and danced and that, went upstairs and bumped into him alone again, I asked him if he wanted to chat, because we haven't seen each other in two months, he agreed so we went out to the quiet part of the smoking area, I was acting completely positive and happy and asking him how he was and what he was up to, he was too and conversation was fine! then he asked me why i removed him and my friends removed him from fb, I told him i needed that to get over him, he told me that really hurted him, he then started to get down and upset saying how his family missed me and i was the only girl he ever loved, I didnt want him to know i was also upset, so still smiling i told him hed find somebody, i then grabbed him to get up and dance, and told him we should be enjoying ourselves we are finished college for the summer! but he kept grabbing me back to have these talks about us, he held me really close and just kept hugging me, he gave me a peck on the lips and gave me his jacket because i was cold, he told me he needed to use the toilet but could we talk afterwards so i agreed. I met the guy i was dating then in the smoking room, he doesn't know my ex so it was fine, I was feeling quite sick from drinking at this point so this guy brought me to the steps in the nightclub to sit me down and take care of me, we were kissing, and I know i shouldn't have because i arranged to talk to my ex. when we stopped i got a tip on my shoulder, it was my ex looking for his jacket back, he told me he was leaving and stormed out. I followed him and asked if he still wanted to chat or leave it, he said he did, so we went to the park which is close to the nightclub, I was running and dancing and singing, being drunk! he was laughing at me, but at the same time i could tell he was annoyed, he knew i was meeting someone, but he said it hurt him i was kissing him in front of him, which honestly was not my intention. We sat side by side and he held me and asked could we spend the rest of the night just like that, he then start talking about this new girl and how she wasnt a good kisser and all this,he also said she asked him out three times and he refused, but i think personally its cause the age different, its a bit much. I just smiled and chatted away about her, and then when i chatted about my new guy, he got annoyed and told me to stop, I was trying to keep the conversation light and fun but he kept bringing it back, he than start crying saying he doesn't know what he wants and was having a good night out till he seen me out and that i was taking the break up so well, when really i didn't have a choice, we basically ended up kissing. after that we talked some more and he asked me could we start dating again, i wasnt sure, he then asked me could i stay at his for movies, but i told him i had all my things in the girls house. I went back to the nightclub and he began to walk home, but i noticed he stopped like 3 times to look back. when i got to the nightclub i could not find ANYONE, i was staying in a hotel with one of the girls that she rented out, because i live far out of town, but there were no sign of the girls or this new guy i was dating, there was nowhere else to go but back to my exs house. so i got a taxi, i sat outside on the bench, he was happy to see me there and i told him the situation, he told me which he did always say, i was always welcome to stay with him if i were stuck, because he knew my situation about living far out, when i went in he went straight on his phone, i got into bed, he told me he didn't know weather to sleep in with me or the couch, but i told him he can do whatever he wants because im just sleeping, he got in behind me and spooned me, telling me he missed taking care of me! We began to kiss, but i stopped it and told him it wasnt on, he than told me it wasnt fair on the girl he was meeting or the guy i was meeting. that annoyed me. we just slept then, the next morning i got his phone and snooped, i know its not cool but i was curious, he had no messages from her,but i know they have been mailing over fb. but in his contacts he only had images for two ppl on his phone, for me and for her. He dropped me home the next day and told me he wanted to see me soon, but i still have him blocked, please tell me your opinion, im sorry for the long message, im just really confused, thank you x
I think that he's confused. Before you do anything with him, if that's your intention, then you need to make sure that he has his things figured out. Let him know that your just not really into being just friends with him and that if he wants more then he needs to so something about the other girl. As for the guy your currently seeing you kind of using him...I'm my opinion. You just needed him to get over the ex. You don't actually have real feelings for him.ask yourself these questions and they should help you. How do you feel about your current guy? How do you feel about your ex? Which could you see yourself having a future with? And are you even in a place in your life where you should even be either? Or should you just focus on you?
-----whatever you do good luck!!