Need advice about me and friend
on May 29 2013 at 22:36
i recently realized i am in love with my best friend. we have been best friends for awhile and talked about dating but thought it could be a bad idea and ruin the friendship. but recently noticed my love for her, i always have an amazing time hanging out with her and i think about her all the time. she makes me so happy. but i don't know how i should approach the situation of telling her how i feel. what should i do, also one more thing is she doesn't live near me currently.
on May 30 2013 at 00:03
Honestly, it sounds like you really like her. It is something that you want her to know, but a little hesitant to do so because you don't want to ruin the friendship. At the same time I feel what's also bothering you isn't the outcome. I feel what's also bothering you is you having to bottle that feeling inside. i would suggest you to express your feelings towards her. Make sure she understands that the reason for you expressing is because it's something that has been troubling you. Tell her as a friend i feel that i am able and comfortable to share with you my feelings. I wish not to jeopardize our friendship, but i just want you to know how i feel. I value our friendship, therefore that is why I am telling you my feelings. Yes, I have thought about us being together multiple times and how great that would be. But I can't be selfish because I know you value what we have now. If I do ever have that opportunity to be more than just friends it would be my dream come true. But if I do not I respect your reasons and only hope that I we can continue our friendship, so I can still be there playing a specific role in your life. By the way, if she is a true friend, she should not be bothered with your honestly and courage.
on May 30 2013 at 06:45
thanks for your advice. i am definitely going to tell her but yeah you are right about bottling up the feelings. i hope the outcome goes the way i want it but if not i can live with her choice and i will try to be there for her still
on May 30 2013 at 21:32
It takes true courage, friendship, and a gentleman to know how and when to respect a female's ground and feelings. I hope she sees that. No worries with the advice. Just trying to help. Good luck and take care.
on Jun 1 2013 at 08:43
thought i would give a little update. i used your advice i told how i felt and said i respect her choices. i told her exactly what i wrote here that i think she is awesome, funny, and the most beautiful girl in the world. she said she was happy that i could be honest and feel comfortable telling her. she said my chance is not now but things could change.
on Jun 3 2013 at 22:08
Congrats! She respected you for being honest and comfortable enough to tell her your feelings. There'a hope because she said things might change later. The main point is she liked the fact that you were honest and brave enough to tell her. Like I said, it takes a lot of courage and you did it. I hope you feel better now, now that it's off your mind. If I can add just one last thing. Do not act different around her. Despite of what you said to her, continue to be yourself. If you don't you might jeopardize your friendship.