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Relationship advice So I met this guy at a party, I thought he was pretty cute and we had good conversation. At the end of the night he asked for my number and I did not hesitate to give it to him. We texted for about a week and then I asked him if he wanted to meet up sometime. He agreed and we met up. The date went well in my eyes and I started to get feelings for him. About a week later he came over to my place, and we kissed for the first time. After that we continued texting. I didn't see him again until three weeks later. During that time I was on a roller coaster of emotions. I wasn't sure if he felt the same way about me, and I was sort of loosing interest in the whole thing. When I finally saw him again things ended up getting pretty intimate, but we did not have sex. We also talked a lot and got to know each other better. After this meet up I ended up falling hard for me, and it seemed like he felt the same way. The semester ended and we both returned to our home towns. We continued texting, but I was again put on the same roller coaster of emotions as before. I still wasn't completely sure if he had the same feelings for me. My birthday rolled around and he texted me happy birthday in between our conversation. He didn't do anything else though. A little after my birthday he stopped texting me. Mean while my friends decided to throw me a surprise party. They told me the day after that they invited him, but he did not respond. This explained why he hadn't been texting me. I know this is a sure fire sign that he was not in to me. But I just want to know if it's completely pathetic to text him asking what happened. I really had strong feelings for him and I'm having the worst time trying to get over him. I'm heart broken and I just wish he wanted me as much I wanted him. There's a part of me that thinks he was just put in an awkward situation and did not know how to respond to it. But I know that's dumb excuse. I want to contact him but I don't want to seem desperate, and I have no idea to what to say to him. Please help!!

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Are you sure you want to contact him? This advice is coming from a guy and I'm not saying that my opinion is accurate. But some guys, not all wouldn't mind the attention needless to say be intimate with a female. Some are interested, however they are interested with multiple girls meaning that try are not ready to settle down. They are interested in exploring, so it's necessarily you that is the issue. He probably likes to keep his option open. With that I feel that you should move on and try not to let his absence bother you. If a guy is interested birthdays are one of the easiest and perfect timing for a guy to express their feelings through. Birthdays allows a guy to buy you memorable gifts and "imply" messages in the bday card. However he did't do neither of the two. Perhaps he isn't experience, but the way he handled the situation with you to me seem like he left you hanging. If you really want to text him, you can say..."look I don't know if it's just me, but I felt a connection between us two. However I noticed that I might have been the only one thinking and feeling that way. I trusted my instinct. But now my instinct is second guessing where I am curious if there was any mutual interest. I am an adult and not afraid of the truth. I am and have moved on with my life, so you don't need to tell me what pleases the ear. Just know that I'm not going to sit around and wait for your reply. If you choose not to reply, then there's the answer." I know my suggestion is rather long, you could say something along those lines...it doesn't make you sound desperate because you've mentioned that you moved on. And that you are mature enough to handle the truth. You're not being immature in accusing him that he should have feelings for you. You implied that you trusted what you believed. As well it mentions that you aren't planning to sit around and wait. Do what's beat for you. And don't linger on if you already know the answer. This is coming from a guy's perspective.

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I want to add. I just re-read what I wrote. I meant to say, "It is not necessarily you that is the issue...." I missed the word "not." Just want to make sure you understand that. Thanks! Sorry for the typo.

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