Parents doesnt approve my relationship with boyfriend
on Jun 5 2013 at 12:31
Hi all, i need advice please. Im just going to get straight to the point my parents does not approve my relationship with my boyfriend because of his past. We are very happy together as a couple but i cant keep living my life like this. We must always meet up and i dont like that i want him to visit me at home. His parents are very happy with our relationship, just wish my parents can understand. What should i do? Please help
on Jun 5 2013 at 20:47
Maybe give it some time. Is there a reason why it's necessary not to just see what happens for right now? Sometimes parents come around, especially when they notice how happy their kids are.
on Jun 6 2013 at 07:59
Sigh, i've been hoping that they'll come around soon, but nothing has changed. We've known each other for more then a year, we've been in a relationship for 10 months. We met each other at work, and the feelings just keeps getting stronger day by day. It is really difficult to end things because of my parents we have been trying to end things but we cant. His family are really happy with me, we get along so well. We always have to meet up somewhere because he cant come to our house seeing that im still staying with my parents. I visit him at home and his also still staying with his mom and sisters, his dad passed away when he was a liitle kid. His trying his utmost best to keep me happy at all times even though its breaking him knowing that my parents doesnt approve. Im been praying and hoping that they will give us a chance. They probably have reason to feel the way they do. He is 28 years of age and i am 24. He was married before, but his wife killed herself and their little kid because she was suffering from bipolar. I've been there for him through good and bad times and he told me him and his wife were married for two years but were seperated for a couple of months and then she killed herself and their son. My parents are blaming him for the cause of her death and their little son, they actually judging him but no 1 can judge someone only God can. His been very honest with me, he told me that he has been very irresponsible when he was younger. His got 3 other kids two different mothers. I've accepted him with all his baggages and i am helping him to unpack it. I really care alot about him, his also been very supportive when it comes to his kids, he doenst see the mothers anymore but his giving them money every month via the bank. He is truly a very sweet, sensitive type of guy with a very good personality, thats probably 1 of the main reasons we fell for 1 another. We've been seeing each other secretively cause of my parents. I introduced him last year November to my parents, and unfortuanetly they know about the incident that happend with his ex wife and little son and they also know about the other children he has. That's why they dont approve at all they are scared that he might hurt me. But i can see that he is not that type of guy, he just wana see and make me happy, and trust me when i say that i am happy with him. My dad told me he cant approve my relationship with him because God will be angry with him if my dad allows me to date my boyfriend... How can he even say that?? What about my happiness? Doesnt that count? I dont see myself without him, even my sisters doesnt approve my relationship with him and its killing me. Everyone at works knows about our relationship and they are fine with it. Why must things be so difficult for us if we are so happy togehter. He told me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and that there will be no one lese but me and that he knows he made alot of mistakes in the past but he has changed and i bleieve him. He spends all of his free time with me, we see each other at work and none of us got tired of one another yet not that we'll ever get tired the bond between us is way too strong for that. I just want a normal relationship with him, he wants my parents to approve of him he even wanted to speak to my parents after they rejected him but they said they were too busy to speak. His got a really soft heart and it breaks to know that the 1 person i truly love and see a furure with , that they dont approve of our relationship. PLEASE HELP ME I BEG....