Hi everybody, i write this as i need some cool advice on what i need to do save my marriage and my relationship with my mother and sister. I believe in good family relations. My mother and sister are two good personaliies , both of them are very strong in charecter and have a good knowledge and maturity in handling all or any issues. We were a happy bunch of people living together with great understanding among us. However, after my marriage to a girl from a poor background, things started turning from bad to worse. The mistake was mine,when immediatly after my marriage i was upset with my sister when she wanted my wife to learn how to do things fast at our home. My instant reaction shocked my sister and she informed mom about it . My mother though adviced me to refrain from such acts, however both my mother and sister started looking at my wife in a way that she is cookign up stories and making me think against my mother and sis. The issue kind of snowballed to a point where i started communicating less with my mother and sister and started listening only to my wife. Which ultimately led to my wife and I leaving the house and staying seperately. After all this my mother and sister has literally disowned me telling me that unless i realise my mistake not to come back to them. However, my mind still yearns for all of us to live happily together. My wife is now very adamant that she will not make any attempt to reconcile. Not only that, she does not want me to talk to them. The day she comes to know that i have been talking or even if we discuss about them at some point, she goes ballistic and start talking ill about them, infact talks really very bad words. I used to tell her to avoid using such words, but she keeps saying them when situation arises and hence we have frequent fights over it. She keeps nagging me about the past issues with my family. i tell her that lets forgive and move on, but do not use such language, but she keeps coming back with those. Now after our marriage we have two kids. but neither my mother or sister turned up see them even though both my kids were fighting for their life when they came into this world due to serious infection on delivery. Now my mother met with a freak accident and she was hospitalised, my wife will not let me even call her, she keeps telling me that she will leave with the children or commit suicide if i try to meet my mom or even call her. I do not know what to do....how to solve this issue...i need to meet my mother..coz what i am todaay is all because of what she sacrificed in her life...can someone help me please
Wow among all the stories I have read , your story is really serious. It is hard to chose between your mother and sister or your wife and kids. I think you should go see your mother. Your wife has no choice but to understand the fact that you cannot avoid the person who brought you into this world and took care of you. When you visit your mom try to talk to her to see her grandkids and to realize that the arguments are not healthy and should try to get along with your wife for your sake. Keep talking to your wife and make her understand that you love her but in the end of the day that's your mother and you must be there for her when she needs you. Because I don't want you to end up regretting not seeing your mother. She needs you. I'm not saying your wife is at fault here because your mom also has done some stuff which isn't right . I am sorry you are going through this hopefully my advice was helpful and the situation will be solved.