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Boyfriend using internet sites

Posted by
DAT_GYAL
on Jun 29 2013 at 03:58
Member since: 29 June 2013
Relationship advice my friend who uses internet dating sites saw my boyfriend on one we have been together for 5 years and have 3 kids...we did separate for a few weeks and he said that's when he joined up but I also went through his emails and it seems he joined 6 different sites mainly the ones for casual fun...I checked his message some he wrote something but no pic and others he wrote profile up and added pics..he hasn't sent message but was that cos you have to pay to do so but if it was free who knows he may of messaged them .I packed his stuff and asked him to leave as I am very hurt and feel so betrayed..i asked why did he do it he said cos I hurt him in the past and he wanted to hurt me back which does not make any sense because if my friend didn't see him online I would never have known (what you don't know don't hurt you right)so how could that be a valid excuse then he said he was on there cos we broke up and I wasn't talking to him...we are meant to get married in September but I really am not sure if I could ever trust him again I feel so let down...also want to add when we decided to give things another go I asked him if he had anything to tell me and he said no he had not been in contact with any girls etc....he also denied he had been logging into the sites when one said on there online today and other said online within a week how can that be wrong .....so confused and do not know what to do sorry for the long essay

Boyfriend using internet sites

Reply from
ANGEL CAKE
on Jun 29 2013 at 16:07
Member since: 29 June 2013
Hello,

I have been on dating sites, you have to pay on some do you can reply, the only one I know that you don't have to pay is plenty of fish.com

I too saw someone I knew on there, who is married, it is a firm of escapism, I believe that your befriend could be hurting, life can be difficult, work, children, success, failure....

I still text men I used to know, it appears that your boyfriend loves you very much and you are both going through a very hard time. Communication can be the hardest thing..

I talk to guys about my husband and ga e turned good friendships. This may be the case for your boyfriend

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Xxx

Boyfriend using internet sites

Reply from
CHOCOLATEWORLD
on Jun 29 2013 at 16:35
Member since: 01 July 2013
I understand what you are going through. Maybe you're boyfriend was confused at that time and regrets it now. He probably realized that he shouldn't just let you go. I think you guys should work this out because maybe he had an intention to meet with one of those girls online. Just have a long talk and see where you guys stand in the relationship. I hope it works well for you guys

Boyfriend using internet sites

Reply from
CANDYCANE904
on Jul 1 2013 at 03:54
Member since: 01 July 2013
Well you have been with your fiance for 5 years and have 3 children so you should work on your problems but you should not allow him to talk to other woman especially about you and his problems. That is personal iinformation and most likely leads to vonorbility and cheating. You and him both need to sit down and talk like mature adults.

Boyfriend using internet sites

Reply from
ANGEL CAKES
on Jul 1 2013 at 14:09
Member since: 29 June 2013
Hi again

I know from personal experience that you need to tackle the subject, however you need to make him realise the effect his behaviour has on you, saying you can not talk to other women, or can not talk to other women about us, can lead to upset, often men to not talk to their mates about emotions, the more my husband went in at me, the more upset I became, leading to me feeling more vulnerable and isolated... Needing to chat to people who did not know me even me, to feel validated by others who didn't know me

Good luck

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Angel cakes

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