Getting fed up
Hi everyone I'm 15 years old. I'm having family issues and I need advice asap. My brother is autistic and just 5 years ago in 2008, my dad got a stroke. My brother is really hard to deal with because he likes to break stuff and make a mess and so many other stuff. My dad is really cranky and every sentence that he says is either a whine or complain. My mom is the only one working and she usually can't do everything for me like shop and take me where I want to go. She's a workaholic and usually when she finishes paying bills and grocery shopping she'll have only $100-$200 dollars to spend.sometimes it's even less than that. There's a guy that comes from an agency to take my brother outside and my relief isn't over yet. I just want a break and be like every other teenager like go to the movies or hang out with friends but I can't do that. Lately I have become socially awkward and I don't have a lot of friends. I been trying to focus on other stuff like school which is working but I feel like my parents don't understand how fed up I am with them using my brother as an excuse for everything. I even try to avoid them like going to my aunt's SDA church to be out the house the whole day or staying after to get away. My most social hour is going to church which sucks. I don't know what to do. I don't want to be using excuses for my self but I can't stand being around my dad and my brother. Them together is hell. I can't wait until I go to collage. I don't want to make this story too long but what should I do so that I can stop avoiding my own family?
Talk to them about the money it's ok you don't need fake people. Work out set a goal an you love your family show your dad. Understand your mom she needs to work and dont ask for things and make her feel bad she is doing her eat with eerything help her out. Get a job if u can help with bills
Wow I feel you. Having a brother with a disability is hard and one with autism is even more challenging. I am a special ed teacher and I know how are it is for the families. My advice to you is that embrace your family. This will not get better if you are not together. Tell them how you feel, but do not be aggressive about it. Explain you understand your brother's disability and are willing to help in any way but tell them you also need help. Think about this, in your parents mind, their priority is your brother, because of his disability. this does not mean they do not like you, but they think you are capable of things your brother is not. Just remind them you also need love and help. Hey, this is where family should be united. Talk to them and good luck... Your brother is the best!!