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What's the right decision?

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Last year I lost a baby, me and my fiancé were devastated. For a while afterwards I struggled with depression and my fiancé found it hard to cope with his own feelings and with my depression. Since we lost the baby last year things have really changed between us. My fiancé means the world to me but I just don't love him in the same way any more. He's my best friend, but I'm not attracted to him any more and have no desire for a physical relationship. I feel terrible because this is not fair on him and he is always doing whatever he can to make me happy. For the past few months I have had feelings for another man. I've never acted on this but I know I shouldn't be keeping this from my fiancé. I feel I should break up with my fiancé but its been almost a year since we lost the baby and he is still struggling to cope. Also I'm worried that I will be making a huge mistake, I don't know if we could fix the problems in the relationship with some outside help, but I don't know if it could ever go back to the way it used to be?

What's the right decision?

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Hi There I think you should sit down with your fiance and have a heart to heart and be honest with every feeling you have and he should do the same, communication and honesty in a relationship is so important. You having feelings for a other guy makes your situation difficult cause you have to be real honest to yourself and search real deep and hard thinking if its the right thing for you. Letting go of an relationship is hard, but if you cant see yourself being yourself again with your fiance and not being happy. You then put more strain on the relationship and then it gets more harder to end it. So the advise i give is to really search your self and see which way is better for you, cause at the end of the day you cant make someone else happy if your not happy yourself. And be open and honest with your fiance about your feeling and everything. Good communication!

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