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On the receiving end of a lie

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Hello, I am currently a year and a half into a relationship of whom I fell in love with straight away and I still am. Before I start I should probably say one thing, smoking. I have been brought up in a family where smoking is morally wrong and I 0% intention of ever trying to smoke because I have seen the effects. I have tried changing my views but its impossible as it is hard drilled into my brain. So back to the story, when I first hooked up with my girlfriend she was going through a rough patch where she smoked for several weeks, I don't know the full extent. But when we got together she knew how I felt about it and said she would stop. Over the course of the next 7 months she occasionally did it and told me until it got to the point where it was around 8 fags in one night and that is where I told her I can't do this any more, so she 'agreed' to stop. So up until now she didn't do it until I found out yesterday that several weeks ago she had a few and didn't tell me. Obviously I am more hurt about the fact that she lied to me and I feel she is still lying to me even after I have asked to clear things up to start with everything out in the open again. Personally I cannot describe the pain I go through when I know she is smoking when I'm at home. Now she is on about smoking weed with friends as well using the term 'occasionally'. I am struggling to deal with the deceit at the moment and I don't even know what to do. Can anyone give me some guidance please?

On the receiving end of a lie

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If you really are that strongly against it. Then you need to tell her that and tell her you can't deal with it anymore & if she continues that's going against her repeat for you and you have to leave her

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