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He just broke up with his girlfriends and said he's not ready for a relationship

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Relationship advice Okay it started in January. My assistant manager was out of the ordinary nice to me. He made feel cute and special so i started crushing on him. One day he had already clocked out but for soome reason he was sitting in our break room. I went in. Assked him what he was doing. He just said he was resting. He kept looking at me as I got ready to leave. So i decided to try and get him to take me home. I asked him what he was going to do now that he was off. He casually said " well i think i'm just going to go alone to get some coffee then go home" I took that as a "want to go with me?" So i told him "want me to go with you to keep you company?" He said yes. We went and he then took me home. We had a nice talk and he bought me the coffee. And when it was finally time to go. He walked me to the door and gave me a super awkward goodbye hug. He immedietly then added me on facebook. Once i added him he messaged me and we were talking about random stuff. About 2 hours into our convo, he started basically telling me how much he liked me. And what he liked about me. He asked me on a date. And i said yes. On the date he started talking about how he didn't believe in true love and ect. Until he met me. That my confidence, my smile, my eyes...basically everything about me made him fall for me little y little. That he felt maybe love did exist. We were about to kiss when he stopped me and said he couldn't because he sadly had a girlfriend. And then it got awkward. I told him that "what now?" And when he walked me home he said he would break up with her because he liked me a lot and he wanted to make things right. And to not worry because he cared for me...he got super cheesy and we kissed. I saw him again a couple times and we kissed like 2 more times but then we agreed not to because he had someone else and even thoughhe said he didn't love them, they didn't deserve to be cheated on. Since he had a girl still about 2 monthss later i decided to forget about him. But since he is my assistant manager, i always see him! So my method to get over him was to use him for sex so that way i would feel like he only had sex to use me. I told him. And he said no at first. Said that he didn't want me to have sex with him just because. Of course me being a girl, we did have sex because i seduced him. After we had sex it was like we connected. I ended up falling for him even more. And well he loved having sex with me. That it was differnt and amazing and he loved it. We did it 2 more times and then told me that we couldn't have sex anymore because i was a good hearted girl annd he really cared about me and he felt i deserve all the respect in the world and he didn't want me settling as his side girl. That i didn't deserve that no matter how much he loved having sex with me. And that he also hated that we skipped the "getting to know each other better" part and went straight to sex. He wanted to get to know me. And well he needed to break up with his girlfriend. and he also didn't want me waiting for him like a dumbass so he wanted me to date. We agreed and about 1 month later i find out he got dumped by his girl. He said that he actually felt really sad. He actually cried for her. And he said that he doesn't know why but he guessed that maybe he did like her....he also told me that since he just got out of a serious relationship he needed time. Because he doesn't feel whole and ready to start a new relationship. But that he want to hang out and be my friend if i want to. But that if i want i can leave him and not talk to him if he wantss. But that he wanted me to remember that when he said i helped him to believe in love again, he meant it...and then like everytime we would hang out, we ended up close to almost kissing. But we didn't since we agreed to be friends for now.....is he serious? Or just leading me on? What dod i do?

He just broke up with his girlfriends and said he's not ready for a relationship

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He has not taken real time to resolve his issues with his past relationships. He is jumping from one thing to the next and it's a temporary escape from what he really need to focus on. If you like the sex, don't get emotionally involved with this guy. Treat him like a booty call and keep it at that. If you are falling for him, make clear to him what you want and if he can't comply, move on. Don't let him waste your time. It's not fair to you that the rope twirls yet he is jumping in the wrong direction. Know what you deserve and keep in mind, once time is wasted you can not get it back!

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